Re: It take on average 8 times to leave.
There might be several reasons for this according to these links.
http://www.womensweb.ca/violence/dv/leave.php
http://www.surviving-abuse.com/why-do-women-stay-in-abusive-relationships.html
Some points that stand out..
-They fear their abusers will become more violent—perhaps fatal—stalking them if they leave. Constant physical and verbal abuse and death threats create a sense of fear among the victims of domestic abuse. Women think that if they leave their home, there is a very real threat to their life and their children. Many women are killed when they try to leave. When the women is leaving is the time when the women is in the greatest danger.Constant abuse makes women so psychologically dependent that they fail to accurately judge what is right and what is wrong for them. They fail to take any independent decision. As a result, they are left with no other option but to stay in abusive relationships. You may across many cases where a person was murdered by his/her partner when the person decided to leave the relationship.
-There are periods of calm, nurturing and love between incidents of violence.Between violent episodes, there are periods of calm during which the abuser is charming, nurturing, and caring. Those traits which initially attracted him/her to his/her victim resurface and the victim sees her abuser as a loving person, thereby reinforcing her decision to stay. Many victims externalize or rationalize the reasons for their abuser’s behavior, casting blame of circumstances such as stress, financial hardship, job stress, chemical dependency, etc. Most of the women believe that their abusive partners will mend their ways, and they will eventually lead a peaceful life.
-**Lack of Resources
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-Most abused women have at least one minor child.
-Many abused women are not employed outside the home.
-Many abused women don’t have property that is solely theirs.
-In many cases, abusers have cut off access to cash or bank accounts.
-Most abused women fear losing joint assets and custody of their children.
-Abused women fear a lower standard of living for themselves and their children.
So even in the West, not every woman is educated and financially independent.
-Many abused women don’t accept the notion of single parenting. They believe a bad father is better than none at all.