Yeah so really impressed by some of the stuff thats bin written around here, friends and colleagues talk a lot about this so yeah not a bad place to wipe it all off in a way..
Id love to share around stuff that i strongly believe is common to all of us, i don’t particularly go on about personal stuff but yeah for starters-
What would you sacrifice for love?
Its stupid to say “everything” - yeah we all have grown up so stop kidding around-
Id say if it is Love than you wont sacrifice anything, wer not talking about Love as in just that televised main stream crap- the real love of your life - someone you spend your life with, like your wife/ husband.
The hardest part is about understanding what you think is sacrifice, to put it better id only be very selfish at first if i did call it sacrifice, you got married, you have responsibilities, man up and face em-
Id be sharing random stuff, regarding life (no not in a negative way -___-)
I'll answer your question if you answer mine. What is love? Does it even exist? Are you in love? It's lust that a lot of people feel when they look at some hot chick or a muscle man.
For your question, it all depends on the situation/circumstances. The person, family, culture, time etc. I'll go all in but love is not worth more than losing my family over it.
Lol
Pakistani mardangi has been one hell of topic going back and forth this place.
I Wont utter say a word but that mardangi is intact and spoon fed (i do agree the mardangi is only left for them to show inside the house but meh who are we kidding here)
Well too bad this forum has a type of mardangi to it -___-
Oh trust me
The days of male dominating society are numbered!
And well if you come to think of it! All girl/ woman want is well technically a personal type of mamma's boy! (Enter= wifey-boy!)
mm, well, it's easier to say what I would*n't* sacrifice for love. I wouldn't sacrifice my honour for love. I wouldn't go against my religion/core beliefs for anyone.
I would give up my ego/independence/other personality flaws for the right person.
I would *consider *permanently giving up my career, but it would also break my heart.
Family is a tough one but depending on circumstances, especially after marriage, I understand sometimes it becomes necessary to give priority to the husband over your own family (as the husband/kids/his family are now considered your family).
I wouldn't sacrifice personal/family safety if I happened to fall in love with a violent psycho.
So, the type of loves you defined to be true according to you (again a personal perception) i would say the Love for God is something only a very few people understand now so :cheers:
The Love from your parents is a Gift almost the majority receives.
Then again, i ment the truer kind of love not the fictional boy meets girl fall in Love stuff, an actual relation!
There is still hope in the world my friend! Thats why it is going on! If you do put personal greed to it, it wont exactly be called LOVE!
So youd see the bigger picture and ignore your personal flaws that you even know are a FLAW!
The mentally still exists to let go of something youv grown up with?
I would not sacrifice my ethnicity, my background, my religion, my culture and identity. I will never sacrifice my parent’s wishes, hopes and dreams for a guy. I will not marry someone who bad mouths my country in a way that is hurtful or says anything to my parents. Neither my self respect or honour. I would sacrifice arguments in his favour, egoistic small battles, time, money and any material or non material attributes that i can sacrifice. As a life partner he can be sure that if trouble, financial or otherwise, falls on us i will be there.
We will celebrate good times together but in bad times we will be each other’s shoulder to cry on. I will respect his parents as mine and he will do the same to my parents. for him they will be a second set of parents and his parents will see me not as a daughter in law but as a daughter. We will both give importance to each others dreams, wishes and aspirations over our own ones. It will be a relationship of giving rather than taking. He will have to love my parents like his own, and love my background/ethnicity and celebrate it as much as I would his. If anything happens to my close family or parents he will be as concerned as I would for his family. Marriage is not just marriage of 2 individuals in desi culture it is the marriage of 2 families and it is imperative they also have true love for each other for marriage to go smoothly and be successful.
This is the true love i will pledge to my partner and he will pledge same back to me. It will be unconditional love not based on age, beauty, social status or financial status. I will be the only wife in his life and obviously he’ll be the only guy in my life. A love that will be timeless and last till we have wrinkles and white hair or have lost our cognition. Easy to fall in love, harder to maintain it. Easy to move on, harder to stay and resolve things. It will be a love marriage beyond this life and to the next.
If something were to happen to him such that he is never the same again. Whether physical, whether medical or losing his job, something he has no control over I will still be by his side. Likewise he will think the same of me.
That is true love. Maybe the type you see in movies. Maybe not.
Sounds all movie like? Well actually such true love exists. May not be common but it is not rare.
where i am i see many examples of true love. Love that crosses many boundaries of race, culture and social status. Of couples, where the one partner, is so sick, losing memory/mind, has lost function of all their limbs, yet they do everything, they take care of the person as much as they can on their own. Rather than offloading this responsibility to a family member, someone else, leaving the partner for another. One wife did not even want to leave her husband even for a minute, she was used to doing everything for each him and did not want him going to a nursing home even though she, losing her memory, could not take care of him as much as he needed.
Rather than see it as a burden to take care of someone like this take it as a privilege God is giving you a chance to serve someone so much and a chance to express your love in such a way. DOes it matter if they cannot understand you?
Very very detailed! But exactly what i am trying to say here. People need to understand what you have explained up there! Need not put any more into it!