Thank you every one for your help and RV your replies are always so comforting. This is how it has been:
Initially the first 3 weeks i was positive about the whole thing but of course had some fears too
Had a little chit chat with the prospective guy and felt more positive
Their family liked it all and propsoed, adding to the positivity
Lastly, my family said yes and every one is fully convinced which removed most doubts.
I was already very satisfied with the minutest of things of this rishta. But i felt i should start it with Allah's dua and went for istikhara.
The first 3 days of istikhara gave me that inclined feeling. I was more than happy for it, every one around me seemed happy.
*The 3rd day i met one of my colleagues and was chit chatting with her for a while and i noticed her clothes as well and really liked them. That same night i got a dream with that same girl with 4-5 of her friends going to a farewell party dressed in formal dresses coloured red, black and white. I met this girl and noticed her clothes specifically that day so maybe it came in my dream.
The fourth day of istikhara a dream came in which the guy inquired about me from my boss and office and got positive results. I still have that positive inclined feeling because i can see each memebr of my family happy and satisfied, which is a rare thing because not every one agrees so conveniently and that too in unison.
Anyway, this is the story so far. What i understood from RV's post and what i understood from Dua Istikhara's translation was that if its good for me Allah will incline me to it and if its not Allah will take me away from it automatically. So far, nothign has taken me away from it and there is the positive energy around me. The dream i got was probably linked to the happenings around me that day.
^If it's good for you....Allah will make it happen with ease. If it's not good for you...it won't happen as He'll turn it away from you. Regardless of the outcome....your heart should be at ease...because the dua asks Allah to make your heart content with His will.
It need not be a dream...it need not be an inclination. Marriages are risky...it's a huge decision...it is natural for one to feel certain at some points and doubtful at others. It's based more upon how the events unfold. Needless to say....you still have the responsibility of thoroughly checking this guy and his family out if you're seriously considering him....in conjunction with seeking guidance/help through prayer. You tie your camel first and then pray......take practical measures/precautions....and then put your trust in Allah.
Thank You RV. We have already been through the phase of finding about the family and the guy. masha Allah we have got 100% positive response from every one we asked. It just seems so smooth. Masha Allah. The phase of visiting each other, making family members familiar with each other, inquiring, proposing has already been done. Its like the final call now. I am hopeful, Allah has the best in store for me, Insha Allah.
k heres the deal. My dreams are nonsense (literally) so if i am ever doing istekhara last thing i want to do is depend on what i dream. And then the understanding of istekhara as told by my mom is that "you are always asking for khair from Allah talah". Do istekhara and whatever u are deciding(if you are content) stay persistent on it, it wud result in good iA .And if you feel its good and it might not be good, Allah talah will create situations to make it not happen for u and bring the best instead.