Saadia - :). I don't know really in all honesty to be fair, who deserves what. I just speak my mind, and if I seem belligerent or hostile.. well.. it just comes out that way. Some guys r genuine and don't deserve the all that censure... but sometimes you just feel like getting up and shaking each and every one of the opposite sex so hard they'll choke ....
AMA - perfect husband? That's funny. Anyhoo.. I'll try.
Someone who asks what color and style of wedding dress you'd like, and makes an effort to get it.
Someone who pays for his own wedding, even if it's just at the marriage registry; even if it's just a one-dish with three guests.
Someone who tells his family - this is the person who I'm going to marry, and she's as much your daughter as your others daughters.
Someone who tells your parents they're his parents too, and loves then the same way.
Someone who buys gifts for his sisters as well as yours.
Someone who your brothers can play Sega games with and beat, and still get treated to ice cream afterwards.
Someone who keeps good company that you approve of and that can have a positive influence on your family life, and who cares about the type of company he keeps when you're not around
Someone who has just a little bit of ambition to do well in life, and not too much
Someone who doesn't keep his wife waiting up all night for him to get home
Someone who, when he finally gets home, doesn't tell his wife "why didn't you eat, you have two hands, you shouldn't have waited", but instead says, "You know, I would have done the same if you weren't here"
Someone who doesn't talk about his work at home, or even bring his work home, and knows that family is always more important than work
Someone who knows that his wife isn't after money but just wants him beside her 24 hours a day coz she can't bear to be separated from him for even a second, which he can't do, but still...
Someone who says "Valentine's day is a non-muslim tradition", but still brings you candy, just coz...
Someone who sends money home to his mom and dad with the note attached, "from your daughter-in-law, with love"
Someone who takes you to the mall and says he has a stomach ache as soon as you enter the store, but still spends five hours picking out the perfect china pattern... and has a huge smile on his face when he lugs it all home
Someone who calls you at work at noon to remind you it's lunchtime so pls. go eat something
Someone who massages your head with oil and gets a "You don't even know how to massage properly" in return, and still smiles
Someone who takes you to see a doctor when you say you have a cold, even if you don't have one
Someone who occasionally does things for anyone who is poor in your family, without ever telling you or expecting anything in return
Someone who remembers what name you give the dishes you cook, and doesn't call daal "sambar" when it's not!
Someone who brings you home a calling card to call your parents without you ever asking, even if you just talked to them two days ago
Someone who takes you for a short drive all the way to India Town in the next city - just to buy you that new dress you never asked for
Someone who holds the house mortgage in his name, but tells everyone "my wife owns this place, I'm just the houseboy"
Someone who cares that you have something constructive to do while he's away at work or on a business trip
Someone who will stand up to his parents and siblings when he knows that they are wrong
Someone who won't let his wife or her family be hurt even a little by anyone, just like he won't let anyone hurt him or his own family
Someone who takes your brother aside and lectures him on partying all night and how worried his parents will get if they find out, but does it in a really nice way and you never find out they had that little man-to-man talk
Someone who doesn't know how much his wife makes, and even if he does, tries consciously to forget it
Someone who gives up his own career to support your move
Someone who protects you from people's idle gossip and discourtesy
Someone who cares about your appearance, and tells you how beautiful you look atleast once a day - even if it's not true
Someone who tells you all his deepest darkest secrets - and who you can tell everything in the world to - and never get taunted for them
Someone with whom secrets are safer than in the depths of the earth's crust
Someone who talks to you, when you talk to them, and even when you don't
Someone who guides you religiously, morally and emotionally.. through all your phases, through all your idiosyncrasies, and through all the times that you tell him "I hate you".. and he never leaves your side for even an instant
Someone who you can look to for comfort and understanding, because his values are solid like a rock
Someone who puts your welfare before his own, and all he really cares about is how to keep you happy
Someone who talks to your parents more than you've ever spoken to them in your whole life, and about everything under the sun
Someone who buys you toe socks on Eid day... from Nordstrom.
That's a perfect husband. Not comprehensive, but it's a start. :)
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