Re: issues with back home relatives, wat to do
after all the problems you have listed, why are YOU not convincing your brother to marry outside of the family?
and if having ties to the home country is worth having so much grief in one's life, then just marry someone from there but not family.
Re: issues with back home relatives, wat to do
We want my brother to marry outside the family but chachoos dont want him to marry out side.
its my dads desire for him to get married in pakistan. we are happy and have no issues. but in pakistan relatives have issues. they dont want him to marry anyone other than my cousins.
Re: issues with back home relatives, wat to do
Your brother should man up and say no to marrying any of his cousins. This should come from him and no one else. Your relatives can't blame your parents if it's your brother who says no, they'd chalk it up to Western culture and they'll let it go.
The argument your brother should make should be along the lines of cousin marriages having a high risk of producing kids with genetic diseases. Research the science and stick to it. You gotta do what you gotta do. Or he could make any other excuse of not wanting to marry his cousins.
Easy.
Re: issues with back home relatives, wat to do
We want my brother to marry outside the family but chachoos dont want him to marry out side.
its my dads desire for him to get married in pakistan. we are happy and have no issues. but in pakistan relatives have issues. they dont want him to marry anyone other than my cousins.
Of course your Chachoos don't want him to marry outside. But this is something that your brother should be deciding, not your Chachoos.
Re: issues with back home relatives, wat to do
Rsohni i have personal experience of what you are going through. Such family issues only drain your mental energy. The best thing to do is kind of go low, what i mean to say is right now ur brother topic is hot issue in your family, so whatever you do you will only get more and more stress cause you cant get ur chacha out of this matter, nor your grandma will stop blackmailing, your father cant ignore his mother and your brother is the only one whose life happiness is on the bet i wish to PM you regarding how we found a solution to such problem, cause as i said its my personal experience.
my chachoos r educated but jahil as well. they know genetic issues and we do have so many cousin marriages bt they say nthing will happen. we r just thinking this way.
my brother should decided bt my chachoos who decided their partners r nt giving him chance....just so someone came to aus.
my bro wen he says something dad gets so angry. bro is gud person. he never disobeyed dad bt dad doesnt get this. he is educated earns himself and can say its my life i can do wat i want.
y nt accept this and happily do wat he wants
Re: issues with back home relatives, wat to do
he is educated earns himself and can say its my life i can do wat i want.
And that's exactly what he should be doing.
Re: issues with back home relatives, wat to do
no one can force your brother to marry unless he lets them run over him, forget about chachoos cutting off the ties, etc.