Re: Issues Crept In
No I’m quite happythat you wrote this as naturally I want a different perspective, I could mostlikely be wrong.
We came togetherdown together the morning before and the question was asked by my mum to bothof us and we spent the day downstairs but the following morning when it’sexpected that you are fully recovered is when I coughed and mum asked, it was only a couple of minutes later thatshe then asked my Mrs how she was with the medicine and whether it hascompletely gone and that she needs to eat something rather than just liquidsnow. So in a way yes my mum did ask later than she asked me but she wentfurther in talking to her than me so I did not see a problem, if anything Ishould have kicked up a fuss and said she did not bother with me, being herson. I admit my mum was not smart but I can’t expect her to behave exactly howmy Mrs wants, that is the problem and I do not really want to have a discussionwith my mum stating that but I might have to. I really didn’t understand theseriousness of the issue and that it so had to be raised by the Mrs. I am notdefending my mum, she should have asked both of us but I understand why sheasked me because I coughed but either way to raise it as an issue I don’t know.
Regarding my familydynamics she has been in enough gatherings (Dawaats/Khatams) where the wholefamily are there and she knows how we are with each other and have a rightlaugh etc. Regarding making her understand I seriously tried, I carried ontrying and then she said ‘You’re defending her’ and stopped talking and thenfive minutes later the discussion started again and I tried to explain. Theonly time I didn’t say anything (had enough in my head) was when she said shewill behave in that manner. When I explained to her I stated that I understandyour feelings but at the same time understand that people have differentrelationships with each other and that is my relationship with her. I alsoexplained that countless times I have been sarcastic with her, much more thanshe has with me. I even gave her an example of her BIL saying to her (my wife) when shestays over at her parents ‘Why have you not gone home yet?, You’re married andshouldn’t be here’ in front of me. That’sa comment but it is the relationship they share and I accept that but it didn’twork with her. She did also mention that because she is my SIL I shouldn’t even have a laugh with her, it’s not right.
We have been more than fine since the above happened and in a way it’s in the past but it is something that was dwelling on my mind so I posted here.