Re: Issue of Cooking !!
Ohmigosh, what is with this cooking thing??!! How much do you men need to eat?????!!!!!
WHY are you even struggling with this issue? Tell him you're going to learn how to cook, yes. But only on weekends for now because you're in school. When you're done, you'll cook one dish in the afternoon and he's gonna have to eat that for dinner too.
Ladies, set the bar yourselves so you're not living according to someone else's standards for the rest of your life!
I know, how evil of me.
^ Reha, if you're evil..........then I'm MALEVOLENT!
Disturb_Angel,
Set your boundaries early in a relationship. If you don't set them now....then you're setting yourself up for hardships. Be firm with your fiance and tell him that your education is important and that cooking and studies can both be handled. One can study and make time to learn cooking. *And tell him that you have the rest of your life to perfect the art of cooking.....but your education has a limited time and deserves your immediate attention. * And kindly remind him that a wife is more than a servant.
Also, please don't hurt your education for a guy. If a guy turns out to be a SUPER LOUSY HUSBAND and if your marriage turns out to be dysfunctional...............At least your education and degree will help you get a job so that you can support yourself. Think about that. In these uncertain times and crummy global economy.....it's necessary for a woman to have a degree....to support herself if the circumstances demand it.
I understand the importance of learning how to cook and you SHOULD learn how to cook. But your fiance's demand for cooking is more than off-putting....it's paindu-like. He said there is no compromising for tasty food? Well, guess what, you're a human. And some days you might even make mistakes in cooking (too much salt, the meat is over cooked, etc). What will he do then? Punish you if the food doesn't taste good? What if you're sick and can't cook? Is he not even going to compromise in that situation? This is ridiculous. Compromises are a part of marriage. If he meant his comment as a joke, it's understandable. But if he was serious.....that's disturbing.
What kind of relationship do you have with his mother? If him and his mom have shown a pattern of this off-putting style behavior....please consider if this relationship is right for you.