pinkyy
March 11, 2012, 5:26am
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Re: Isn’t it weird?
Sounds like there are quite a few problems in that situation. The family, particularly the parents are putting all their focus and energy on their son and his family, which is ofcourse important (especially since the son isn’t able to support his family at the moment). However, they shouldn’t neglect their daughter because she is “of age” to get married, and most importantly, she sounds like she’s ready to get married. They seem too preoccupied mentally to be putting in effort to get her rishta done somewhere. They shouldn’t just tell her to marry someone without asking them, what kind of parent says that? I think that particular sentence was probably said in anger…they have to have the least bit of concern for their daughter. What I would suggest is that your friend sit down and talk to her parents so they SERIOUSLY start thinking of her future and not just their sons present state. Sometimes with parents like these they need a push from family members/friends, so your friend should talk to a close trustworthy adult who knows her parents and tell them to focus on their daughter and perhaps be a bit more social and approachable so the girl gets rishtas. Lastly, your friend should start looking on her own too. She doesn’t have to run away and get married, but there’s no harm in finding someone yourself then telling your parents.
Pretty sad.
I dont think my parents were serious about looking for me for a while; I got some of my great aunts involved when I went to Pakistan and they agreed parents should be looking, so they called my parents and had a talk…
Her father’s reaction is pretty shocking though. I can get a brother not looking out for his sister - our society is filled with these nikammay, but the father of all people should be SUPER concerned about a rishta for his daughter! No?
I would think so.
Oh well.
I say, get on your own two feet woman, and look for a man yourself. It’s hard though. Desi guys have little idea on how to conduct any courtship, and they are often not serious.
:-/
Yes, now she says there’s someone who recently approached her to give her parents’ no so that he can send his parents to her home, and he is someone she likes as well, but now, she is scared & has no idea how can things get started.