Hi,
I’m new and just wanted to ask about Islamic weddings and traditions.
We already did our wedding years ago with the traditions of today ie, a dj, lots of guests, wearing red(isn’t this indian tradition?) and the usual stuff.
We would like to do it again but be registered in the uk this time and a ceremony but what are OUR traditions without copying uk(white dress) or india (red)
Sorry for going on, look forward to speaking to people.
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WELL according to islam the weding dress is supposed to be white ...but follow indian traditions as we have lived togethers imean our forefathers so we always go with red an consider white not good but now a days white i also in.
WELL according to islam the weding dress is supposed to be white.
this is really intereseting! could you tell me a web side or something, where i can read this?
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(@shk_14) - eh, where did you get that from?
if we're talking about the very basics as prescribed by islam, that's only the nikkah and how it should be performed and then the sunnah of a walima to announce the wedding.
everything else is cultural.
dare i say that is what the OP is trying to get at. in the event that this is a real query. Glitter, if you have had a nikkah you are married, end of. If you want to register your marriage in the UK you go to the registry office and get it done, it has nothing to do with religion.
If you want a party to celebrate that, well that's entirely up to you how you do it and which culture you want to follow.
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salaam and welcome to the forum!
Islamically, there are no restrictions on what colour a bridal dress should be, Usually a bride will select a colour or style according to her cultural background and this is absolutely fine. With regards to the traditions a Muslim wedding consists of the Nikah and the Walima, anything other than that is not considered Islamic e.g. Mayoun and Mehndi which is a South Asian tradition. Although, these can be incorporated in to an Islamic wedding so long as they contain no Hindu religious customs. Applying Henna is also an Arab tradition and even at the time of the prophet SAW the married girls would help the bride to adorn herself with beautiful garments, jewellery and Henna.
In short an 'Islamic wedding' is a simple affair as there is more blessings in such a nikah in which the rulings of Islam are considered and respected. The best example of an Islamic wedding in history is the nikah ceremony of Ali RA with Fatima RA.
Hi,
Thanks for the replies! (and one welcome)
So I guess other than the nikka and walima everything else is cultural. But it seems in muslim weddings these days (in uk) we copy other people's traditions and cultures.
I'm half english but wouldn't want to do any of their culture things, I know nothing about it and seems un natural to me.
At my wedding the cultural things were my mehndi, (even there we had the feeding, my cousins danced etc..) the whole wedding, photos, groom walks in, camera crew right up everybodys nose..
As you can't re do a nikka or walima I suppose getting the marriage registered in uk would be up to us if we wanted to "celebrate" it.
Again it wouldn't be our own traditions because ours are very simple.
My query was if there was anything else I didn't know of.
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I wouldn't say we copy other people's traditions. Culture and tradition aren't static, they evolve and everyone from the Indian subcontinent shares similar traditions that were adopted from each other. Muslims adopted customs such as wearing red at the wedding. Just as Arabs in the middle east, muslim or christian, wear white.
But whereas Hindu's, have to wear red (I believe), muslim's don't, so this is changing in our own culture in Pakistan.
As long as one isn't doing something against Islam or out of superstitious beliefs (such to bring good luck or avoid bad luck), then there is no real problem.
I'm surprised that your marriage wasn't already registered. It's very advisable to get that done so that you are recognised as a married couple by UK law.
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Hi,
Yes I agree, I know, I think my mother said it was important to get registered but NO ONE in my family or husbands is registered here. My parents are. We said we'd get round to it eventually and now I'm really thinking about it.
You know the luck thing, when we did the walima and we went to husband's house, my sister in law actually said for luck step in the house with your right foot..
I think I read somewhere that wearing white is sunnah but am sure there is no hard and fast rule about what particular colours have to be worn, obviously if ur very practising u might want a segregated wedding, no music (bar drums), no photography (I know there's differences of opinions on whether that's allowed or not) etc.. If u wanted to dress as Islamically as possible I guess u could wear a wedding abaya or something instead of the 'traditional' western style wedding gowns most Arab girls wear..
Hi, Yes I agree, I know, I think my mother said it was important to get registered but NO ONE in my family or husbands is registered here. My parents are. We said we'd get round to it eventually and now I'm really thinking about it.
You know the luck thing, when we did the walima and we went to husband's house, my sister in law actually said for luck step in the house with your right foot..
that is actually part of islam...to enter a place with ur right foot and exit it with ur left...i dont think it has anything to do with luck though but i could be wrong
IIf u wanted to dress as Islamically as possible I guess u could wear a wedding abaya or something instead of the 'traditional' western style wedding gowns most Arab girls wear..
Why is an Abaya more "Islamic" (whatever that means) than a full-sleeved Shalvar Qameez? Because what Arabs wear is automatically more "Islamic" than what we wear?
To the OP: It sounds like you're already married from a religious perspective, and all that's left are British legal formalities. I don't quite understand what you're trying to do...you want to know the proper Islamic manner for observing a legal formality that didn't even exist in the Prophet's era? That really doesn't make much sense.
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^ No, a lot of v.religious Muslims think abaya is best cos they reckon a full-sleeved shalwar khameez still shows the outline of the body and legs whilst abaya just goes down like a cloak.. You'll find the most religious desis in the UK tend to wear abaya/jilbab for that very reason..
There was a case in Luton a few yrs back where a Muslim girl (Pakistani or Bengali I can't remember) actually took her school to Court cos she wanted to wear a jilbaab or abaya instead of shalwar khameez as uniform cos she didn't think she was covered appropriately (she lost the case tho)..
^ No, a lot of v.religious Muslims think abaya is best cos they reckon a full-sleeved shalwar khameez still shows the outline of the body and legs whilst abaya just goes down like a cloak..
Shalvar qameez don't have to be cut to be tailored and form-fitting. A loose, full-sleeved shalvar qameez is no more revealing than an abaya.
You'll find the most religious desis in the UK tend to wear abaya/jilbab for that very reason..
I find that the "most religious desis" tend to be the most Arab parast, with the biggest inferiority complexes...and therefore feel the need to unescessatily ape Arab culture.
(she lost the case tho)..
As well she should have. Private schools are not required to deal with this nonsense.
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There is no significance of colours in Islam for bridal wear. You can wear any colour you like best. The outfit shouldn’t be revealing in any way - sleeveless oufits and mid riff baring ones are out of the question.
No need to hire the most expensive designer/caterer/dj. The ceremony should be simple, elegant and dignified. A nikkah and a Walimah are the only two events that should be celebrated.
You can still celebrate your legal wedding by doing everything that you want. Keep it simple this time and try to build as many memories as possible. Don’t keep labelling stuff as being Islamic or not. You can still show happiness by not going overboard and that is what Islam is all about.
Have a fun celebration!
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/culture-literature-linguistics/24941-what-islamic-wedding.html
Re: Islamic wedding
There is no significance of colours in Islam for bridal wear. You can wear any colour you like best. The outfit shouldn’t be revealing in any way - sleeveless oufits and mid riff baring ones are out of the question.
No need to hire the most expensive designer/caterer/dj. The ceremony should be simple, elegant and dignified. A nikkah and a Walimah are the only two events that should be celebrated.
You can still celebrate your legal wedding by doing everything that you want. Keep it simple this time and try to build as many memories as possible. Don’t keep labelling stuff as being Islamic or not. You can still show happiness by not going overboard and that is what Islam is all about.
Have a fun celebration!
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/culture-literature-linguistics/24941-what-islamic-wedding.html
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Browse this as well:
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/wedding/251560-symbolism-red-dress.html
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well black and white are sunahh...as our beloved prophet (p.b.u.h)liked this colour for brides and dislked the red one.its sunnnat again no hard and fast rule though.
Shalvar qameez don't have to be cut to be tailored and form-fitting. A loose, full-sleeved shalvar qameez is no more revealing than an abaya.
I find that the "most religious desis" tend to be the most Arab parast, with the biggest inferiority complexes...and therefore feel the need to unescessatily ape Arab culture.
As well she should have. Private schools are not required to deal with this nonsense.
Not what I believe, I don't even cover but live and let live imo