For most of us at home, marriage is a hot topic..especially if your a gal....but something I was wondering was…nowadays who goes for the Islamic way of marriage? By that I mean nikkah to be read in a mosque then reception follows either in their basement or a hall in that same mosque…men and women separated..no music..etc etc…what happened to those? It would definitely be more sunnat to do it that way and I was just wondering if you guys would prefer that over a fancy, mixed sexes, DJ playing, dancing, more elaborate wedding?
My opinion? I am not sure haven’t really thought about it but lately I have been leaning towards the first way even though growing up and dreaming about my wedding day (as most of us young girls do ) I always wanted a showy classic wedding..aahh how times change
to answer your question though, yes, i've attended weddings like that. i've also attended weddings where the nikah is segregated in a mosque and the reception is combined and dressy in a banquet hall, so you get the best of both worlds.
i've also attended a very close friend's wedding where the nikah was in a masjid, and the reception in two halls, side by side, but completely segregated. the doors in between the halls were closed and my friend and her brother had cell phones and played the go-between for aunties and their husbands haha
they also played islamic ayats/music during the reception. it was fine too... all the ladies, including the dulhan, had a great time because their hijabs could come off. the dulhan still sat on stage and the dulha did too, but in their own halls.
The wedding bases on Sunnah would be the best but our culture and surroundings have definitely changed our mind. We don't think really in Islamic way because we don't apply the Islamic rules in our day to day life. We attend other weddings and spent so much money on, people praising, etc that we also feel it should be the same way for us. We somehow want to show the world.
Also one of the problem is "What will the people say". These days the condition of Muslims have changed so much that if you arrange a wedding like this, they might not feel like attending, because of status and prestige.
These are few of the reasons, however, Shaitaan brain washes our minds and human is always attracted towards these things than smplicity.
Wow no offense desigirl, but you're quite a character. On one hand you're "desperately" trying to end a marriage, and on the other you have so much free time to ponder over such things and then create threads on them. Quite amusing if I do say so myself :)
^^ No guys, nothing like that at all. I just attended a wedding last weekend actually and it was completely "americanized" if you may and it got me thinking...they didn't even read nikkah the proper way..NO WAY am i thinking about my own wedding it was just a thought
no, dont be like that. its good to see you're still positive about getting married despite your own issues at the moment. when its all over, go back to school or get a job you really love and do things for you.
to answer your question though, yes, i've attended weddings like that. i've also attended weddings where the nikah is segregated in a mosque and the reception is combined and dressy in a banquet hall, so you get the best of both worlds.
i've also attended a very close friend's wedding where the nikah was in a masjid, and the reception in two halls, side by side, but completely segregated. the doors in between the halls were closed and my friend and her brother had cell phones and played the go-between for aunties and their husbands haha
they also played islamic ayats/music during the reception. it was fine too... all the ladies, including the dulhan, had a great time because their hijabs could come off. the dulhan still sat on stage and the dulha did too, but in their own halls.
yeah Iv'e been to a couple with such a setting, however, towards the conclusion of the evening, when dinners out of the way... the dulha is allowed into the ladies side to sit with his bride... those ladies that want to cover up do. Also the girl's mahrams were allowed in for family pics and then they were rukhsatified.
Apparently in Saudi its similar however when the groom comes, everything in the hall is darkened except the stage.
..but something I was wondering was…nowadays who goes for the Islamic way of marriage? By that I mean nikkah to be read in a mosque then reception follows either in their basement or a hall in that same mosque…men and women separated..no music..etc etc…what happened to those? It would definitely be more sunnat to do it that way and I was just wondering if you guys would prefer that over a fancy, mixed sexes, DJ playing, dancing, more elaborate wedding?
) I always wanted a showy classic wedding..aahh how times change