Re: Islam and marital rape...
WHOAH WHOAH WHOAH!!!!!!!!!!!
WHOAH!
You people have seriously made me LIVID!
Being married does not mean you give entirely free access of your body to another. You are still ONE person. For your spouse to force themselves on you, it IS rape, married or not. Islam views any form of oppression to be worse than death. Forcing sex on the unwilling is oppression, and therefore, worse than death.
"A Muslim wife is not merely a lump of flesh without emotions or feelings, just there to satisfy a man's natural urges. On the contrary, her body contains a soul no less important in God's sight than her husband's. Her heart is very tender and delicate, and crude or rough manners would hurt her feelings and drive away love. The husband would be both foolish and immoral to act in any way unpalatable to her natural temperament, and a man selfishly seeking his own satisfaction without considering that of his wife is a selfish boor."
Rape isn't about sex, it's about control. A man that rapes a woman, even in the marital bed, is not doing it to fulfill his sexual desires, he's doing it to dominate her, and degrade her. There is no debate on this.
Do you not read the Quran? Do you not read Hadith?
Commentary note 195, page 75, The Meaning of the Holy Quran ‘Abdullah Yusuf Ali: *’Men and women are each other’s garments i.e. they are for mutual support, mutual comfort, and mutual protection, fitting into each other as a garment fits the body. A garment also is both for show and concealment.*
Then shall anyone who has done an atom's weight of good, see it! And anyone who has done an atom's weight of evil, shall see it. (The Noble Quran, 99:7-8)"
“According to the Qur’an, the purpose of marriage is to attain *sukun **(tranquility and peace; see for instance verses 30:21; 7:189), **which can never be achieved through impulsive sexual fulfillment unless it is accompanied by mutual love, affection, caring, and sharing, which are all part and parcel of a fulfilling and productive marriage relationship. Islam, as we know it holistically from the sources, is a balanced way of looking at things. Sexual fulfillment can never be detached or separated from an attitude of mutual respect, love, and emotional attachment, otherwise it can hardly be distinguished from the behavior of brutes. Mind you, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) warned couples against hopping into beds like birds without proper foreplay and preparation, which includes showing affection and tender care. *
"Not one of you should fall upon his wife like an animal; but let there first be a messenger between you." "And what is that messenger?" they asked, and he replied: "Kisses and words." (Daylami)