You know what is haram? The fact that you are talking about it openly when this issue is between your wife, you and your doctor.
God doesn’t give a damn if someone named after porno magazine uses condom or pill, if he wants a loser out of you, he will make one.
All we needed was some good inthread-spanking and you burst in anger, name calling and long reply scattered with incomplete sentences and dots! For you performing prayer, hajj, zakah, huqooq-ul-ibaad (do you even know what this is?) are NOT real issues? Somethings to DO BEFORE you get all mullahfied about contraception?
I guess people do have their priorities, yours being how you can bang your wife without getting her pregnant the ISLAMIC way and prayer, hajj, zakah, etc. don’t mean nothing to do you which is why you ignored what I was asking!
You know when you are in your grave and angel asks question about namaaz, you will say: No, but I did perform contraception the “islamic” way - does that count uncle Farishta?
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I remember reading somewhere that contraception is allowed in certain conditions in Islam.
Parents won't be able to afford a baby. That is providing the basic needs.
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From what I know, its quite the opposite. Fear of poverty should never be a reason to use birth control. It is Allah who will provide rizq for your child, not you
Contraception has nothing to do with poverty/roti!! its pure common sense. If you are poor would you rather have 12 kids or 2 kids?? having 2 kids would improve your chances of providing your children better TARBIYAT....and a better future so they can work themselves out of poverty. Roti is not=to tarbiyat...just because some parents put food on the table doesnt make them good parents...also parents' farz is not limited to providing their children with food. Allah has given us brains to think about REAL issues and REAL problems so we can lead a better life and improve the present. A couple has all the right to decide when and how many children they can have...its legal from all aspects, religious and others.
From what I know, its quite the opposite. Fear of poverty should never be a reason to use birth control. It is Allah who will provide rizq for your child, not you
Contraception has nothing to do with poverty/roti!! its pure common sense. If you are poor would you rather have 12 kids or 2 kids?? having 2 kids would improve your chances of providing your children better TARBIYAT....and a better future so they can work themselves out of poverty. Roti is not=to tarbiyat...just because some parents put food on the table doesnt make them good parents...also parents' farz is not limited to providing their children with food. Allah has given us brains to think about REAL issues and REAL problems so we can lead a better life and improve the present. A couple has all the right to decide when and how many children they can have...its legal from all aspects, religious and others.
You kinda summoned it up to what I was thinking but didn't write.
Contraception has nothing to do with poverty/roti!! its pure common sense. If you are poor would you rather have 12 kids or 2 kids?? having 2 kids would improve your chances of providing your children better TARBIYAT....and a better future so they can work themselves out of poverty. Roti is not=to tarbiyat...just because some parents put food on the table doesnt make them good parents...also parents' farz is not limited to providing their children with food. Allah has given us brains to think about REAL issues and REAL problems so we can lead a better life and improve the present. A couple has all the right to decide when and how many children they can have...its legal from all aspects, religious and others.
Often times we forget that the Provider and Giver is Allah(Azza wa jal). Everything happens according to His will. So how could you say having 2 kids would likely improve the chances of them having a better tarbiyah? If Allah(Azza wa jal) wills it then they will have a better tarbiyah and a better life, if He doesn't then even that one child or two children that you have, no matter what you did you wouldn't be able to give them an ounce of a good tarbiyah let alone support them.
So please stop assuming your own means and go talk to a learned scholar who will tell you insh'Allah what the correct ruling is and base your decision off of that. And I will leave you with a reminder. I know of some people who mash'Allah have had their first born but have not been able to get pregnant after that even though they have tried everything and have gotten every test possible done. And subhan'Allah the doctors have found nothing to be wrong with them :) so thank Allah(Azza wa jal) for what you have and you are getting. If He can give He can take and if He does give it then He knows how to provide it.
Every child comes with their own rizq and destiny, don't worry about how you will provide because it's not you who provides but Allah(Azza wa jal).
What is the ruling on family planning in nations where there is a large number of inhabitants such as in Cairo for example?.
Praise be to Allaah.
We will quote to you below a statement issued by the Fiqh Council (al-Majma’ al-Fiqhi) with regard to family planning:
The meeting of the Fiqh Council held during its fifth conference in Kuwait 1-6 Jumaada al-Aakhir 1409 AH (10-15 December 1988) – after studying the research presented by members and experts on the subject of family planning, and listening to the debate that took place on this topic, and based on the fact that one of the objectives of marriage according to Islamic sharee’ah is to reproduce and preserve the human race, and that it is not permissible to undermine this objective, because undermining it goes against the texts and teachings of sharee’ah, which call for having many children, protecting them and taking care of them, because producing and caring for offspring is one of the five kulliyaat (holistic principles) which sharee’ah came to take care of – issued the following resolutions:
1 – It is not permissible to issue laws that limit the freedom of couples to have children.
2 – It is haraam to remove the ability of men and women to have children, which is known as sterilization, so long as there is no need to do so according to shar’i principles.
3 – It is permissible to use temporary means of contraception in order to increase the gaps between pregnancies, or to stop them for a limited period of time, if there is a valid shar’i reason for doing so, based on the couple’s estimation and with mutual consultation and agreement, subject to the condition that this does not result in harm and that the means is acceptable according to sharee’ah and will not damage any existing pregnancy.
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Every child comes with their own rizq and destiny, don't worry about how you will provide because it's not you who provides but Allah(Azza wa jal).
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Exactly, thats the main issue that people need to understand. It is not you who will provide rizq for your children, but Allah. Yes you are the one working and putting the effort, but rizq is given by Allah. Someone who has 12 kids and is poor, doesnt mean they will still be poor tomorrow. And someone who has 2 kids and is rich, doesnt mean they will still be rich tomorrow. In one second, Allah can change everything for them. And someone who has 2 kids has no gurantee they will be able to raise them well and someone who has 12 kids if they fear Allah and follow Islam, they might do a much much better job at it!!
Using contraception because you dont want to have alot of kids because you dont want to get overwhelmed, you want to be able to devote enough time and energy to each one to raise them well is NOT the issue here, that is all fine and good. But using it because you fear poverty doesnt make any sense for a Muslim. Because even if you only have one kid --can you really say that you will gurantee that you will be able to provide comfortably for them, or at least give them a home and food to eat? No you cannot, because tomorrow your whole world may change. Rizq is from Allah and we have no gurantee of what tomorrow may bring
^its not just poverty, a child needs a good education, and other basic needs. What solutions do you have for the country’s over populated schools and hospitals? medical care and education are the basic requirements, let alone food, you cant control inflation and other ups and downs in the market…unless you are growing your own food, and spinning your yarn, no matter how self sufficient one becomes, you and your family are dependent on the system you live in, hence carrying a good judgment around on such issues will InshAllah solve problems EVERYONE i.e. the rich and the poor are facing together. Contraception is totally legit.
And one of [God’s] signs is that He has created for
you mates from yourselves, that you may dwell in
tranquility with them, and has ordained between
you Love and Mercy. A L - R O U M ( S U R A 3 0 : 2 1 )
It is He who created you from single soul and
therefrom did make his mate, that he might dwell
in tranquility with her. A L - A’ R A F ( S U R A 7 : 1 8 9 )
And God has made for you mates from yourselves
and made for you out of them, children and
grandchildren. A L - N A H L ( S U R A 1 6 : 7 2 )
These verses suggest that tranquility is an
important purpose of family life and is achieved
through marriage. Also, while procreation is
expected in marriage to maintain the human race,
sexual relations in marriage need not always be for
the purpose of having children. On this point,
Islam departs from some other religions where
procreation is the exclusive purpose of sexual relations.
From the Islamic point of view, when procreation
takes place, it should support and endorse
tranquility rather than disrupt it.
Thus, contraception helps families achieve
tranquility by having children when they want
them and when they are prepared to have them.
Because of the importance of family in Muslim
societies, legal scholars from various Islamic
schools of jurisprudence and
from various locales have given considerable attention
to contraception.
Allah desires for you ease; He desires no hardship
for you. A L - B A G A R A ( S U R A 2 : 1 8 5 )
And has not laid upon you in religion any
hardship. A L - H A J J ( S U R A 2 2 : 7 8 )
Allah desires to lighten your burden, for man was
created weak. A L - N I S A ( S U R A 4 : 2 8 )
Thus, Islam would be sympathetic to family
planning if spacing pregnancies and limiting their
number made the mother more physically fit and
the father more financially at ease, particularly
since these actions do not violate any prohibition
in the Quran or in the Prophet’s tradition
(Sunnah). If excessive fertility leads to proven
health risks for mothers and children, or economic
hardship and embarrassment for the father, or the
inability of parents to raise their children properly,
Muslims would be allowed to regulate their fertility
in such a way as to reduce these hardships.
"In Islam, as in virtually all religions, fertility is highly prized and children are a gift of God to bring “joy to our eyes.” (Surah 25: Al-Furqan:74) Conservatives also argue that family planning is a lack of trust in the sustaining God. They cite texts such as this: “There is no creeping being on earth but that upon God is its sustenance.” (Surah 11: Hud:6) The Quran also says that if we place our trust in God that that is enough. My mother’s Irish faith comes to mind: “God will not send a child without sending the means to feed it.”
This naive and passive trust that no matter what we do or don’t do God will make up the difference does not bear scrutiny and does not face up to the perennial fact of starving children. It is dismissed by Islam’s best theologians. Theologian Fazlur Rahman says that using the Quranic references to God’s power and promise to sustain all creation to argue "for an unlimited population out of proportion to the economic resources is infantile. The Quran certainly does not mean to say that God provides every living creature with sustenance whether that creature is capable of procuring sustenance for itself or not." We are not passive sheep waiting to be fed, in the Islamic view. We are God’s vicegerents on earth, gifted with reason and talent. God has shared responsibility for providence with us and has given us the power to be prudent, to see problems and do something sensible about them.
This squares beautifully with Thomas Aquinas’ description of humans as “participants in divine providence.” Also, in Catholic theology, relying on God’s sustaining power to do what we have been equipped by God to do for ourselves is called the sin of “tempting God.”
Contraception has a long history in Islam. Early Islam actually developed contraceptive medicine and instructed Europe on it. Avicenna the Muslim physician in his book “The Law” discusses twenty different substances used for birth control. Such Islamic books of medicine were used for centuries in Europe. When Europe was in its “dark ages,” Islamic culture with its stress on education kept the light of learning burning to the benefit of all peoples.
