:(… you knw how i feel …
absolutely stupid …
u knw how u can change yourself completely to matcha persons personality
and do everything for them … and when u need them to und erstand jus one thinggg!!! they blow it outta porportion and all ofa sudden your the bad person ,
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angel, what happened?? when did u get married btw?
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nvr change yourself for anyone! because when u do that you lose your identity and self worth. Compromising is one thing....but losing yourself for someone is another.
Years down the road you are either going to want your identity back (which will be tough to do) or you will be very unhappy with the relationship you are in.
angel, what happened?? when did u get married btw?
well i got married last august :) ...
well .... i guess its nawt a major big deal and ill prolly get told to stop whining :( ...but you knw when a loved one ...has so many expectations from you and you try to live up to them
to the best that u can .....and u express one expectation of yours and all of a suden ....im da bad guy!!!
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hey angel 
Not sure what happened but I’m sure you’ll feel better in no time! 
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Remember, the first year is always the hardest. Then it gets better.
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yeh i knw ....the first years da hardest .... bu u cant help feeling everythings gne wrong and how your suppose to get through it when u jus wana give up when i shudnt feel that way//
Remember, the first year is always the hardest. Then it gets better.
Hey Ira, first year only? I heard it's the first five years hehe
n Best wishes to u Angel.
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Seems like another case of over-expectation.
:(.... you knw how i feel .... absolutely stupid .... u knw how u can change yourself completely to matcha persons personality and do everything for them ... and when u need them to und erstand jus one thinggg!!!! they blow it outta porportion and all ofa sudden your the bad person ,,,,:(:(:(
Angel,
You said **"u knw how u can change yourself completely to matcha persons personality and do everything for them." **I think that's your problem, hon.
Compromising is important in a relationship BUT **you should **NEVER have to change yourself completely just so that someone else can approve of you. You are an individual and that's what makes you unique.
And why are you doing everything for this person? You're not a servant. I don't know who this other person is. But you teach people how to treat you.
If this person is disrespecting you, it could be because this person sees that you're always the one to surrender, give in, and compromise. So, this other person has gotten used to the idea that YOU will always be the ONE **to do **EVERYTHING to make him/her accept you. That's not a healthy outlook for you or this person.
I think it's time for you to take a break and reassess or re-examine the relationship you have with this person. A relationship is supposed to mutual. And if you feel that you are always the ONLY person to compromise........then this whole affair is just one-sided.
Angel,
You said **"u knw how u can change yourself completely to matcha persons personality and do everything for them." **I think that's your problem, hon.
Compromising is important in a relationship BUT **you should **NEVER have to change yourself completely just so that someone else can approve of you. You are an individual and that's what makes you unique.
And why are you doing everything for this person? You're not a servant. I don't know who this other person is. But you teach people how to treat you.
If this person is disrespecting you, it could be because this person sees that you're always the one to surrender, give in, and compromise. So, this other person has gotten used to the idea that YOU will always be the ONE **to do **EVERYTHING to make him/her accept you. That's not a healthy outlook for you or this person.
I think it's time for you to take a break and reassess or re-examine the relationship you have with this person. A relationship is supposed to mutual. And if you feel that you are always the ONLY person to compromise........then this whole affair is just one-sided.
thanx red velvet what u said reli helped me feel better ....:)
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hmmm i dont entirely agree redvelvet
firstly, what exactly do u do for him or what are his expectations of u and u of him?
is he disrespecting u? i didnt read that he was... so please dont start thinking that he is disrepecting u if for some reason he is laffing at an expectation of urs.. he may just be thinking that its not an appropriate expectation..
im not trying to defend your husband.. but being married for 3 years and being faced with similar issues (if its to do with expectations) then id say dont stress too much.. talk to him about it.. and dont give up
if he's treating u like a doormat or abusing you or insulting u, then u have issues..
its best to just lay out both your expectations and assess them.. see if they are realistic or not...
noone knows ur hubby more than you do... so u be the best judge
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