I get so bothered when I see these "would you allow", "would you force", "would you push" type posts. These terms have no place in a marriage. Marriage is first and foremost a partnership. One where both parties share interests, goals and life experience. Sure there will be compromise on the part of both but these things are really pretty fundamental and should have been hashed out prior to making a lifetime committment. Marriage isnt like a job that you can quit if you dont like it. Its supposed to be for life. So make sure you both share the same interest, life goals and desires - BEFORE you sign your life away. If you like your bling then marry one who will happily provide it. If you want to be a stay-home mother, make sure that this is what he wants also. If you want a career even after kids, be REALLY sure that he's good with that too.
I;m sure there are some marriages where one partner or the other throws a curve ball - the high wage-earner who wants to go join the peace corps etc. and those are difficult to iron out. But still, in a real partnership even these curve balls can be worked out and compromised to a degree that keeps both happy.
^^^ I agree