Is this understandable??

[Sara516]

Re: Is this understandable??

@Deeba1234

Yeah, don’t think they were surprised but still must have hurt like hell.. Part of me thinks the brother should have toned down his own wedding a bit.. Seems quite disrespectful from his end as well imo

Why?

They married who they wanted to marry, why should they tone down their wedding for someone else’s issues?

@Deeba1234

Webmister, Why would they be furious about him marrying a desi girl?

Regarding the new wife of the boy I’m referring to she has no dad, just her mum and several siblings.. They are v.well-off tho, money is no object to them.. Father died just a couple of years ago and this child was the oldest and first to marry.. It was a love marriage.. Their mehndi was literally double the price of most ppl’s weddings so obviously the disparity between the siblings was even more obvious.. From what I understand** both** sides contributed a similar amount, it wasn’t a case of her side paying more and asking for their parties to be a bit more fun + lavish. Me personally I wouldn’t have the heart to have a flash wedding knowing my brother had to make do with a rubbish one..

The girls did want the typical big fat desi weddings that we’re all used to and as both grooms were totally into desi culture I guess they wouldn’t have been against it (both their families were happy with the marriages, they all turned up, congratulated the couple, mingled with the new inlaws etc. whilst girl’s mum was there grudgingly)..

Also forgot to mention despite the boy and his wife being the most financially well-off (by a long way, his wife makes six figures already tho he himself earns an average salary) the two girls were expected to leave home straight away whilst he stayed behind even tho his parents are still young-ish, still working and independent.. I think he may have moved out as well now tho, not too sure.. I remember the younger sister telling me she could barely even afford furniture whilst brother was putting his feet up at home with their mum and dad, no bills nothing.. In our circle it’s not common for the kids to stay with parents after marriage either unless there’s a need so I suppose she saw it as rubbing more salt into the wounds.. So much bitterness and resentment

So…why didn’t they have a big wedding? Were they not able to afford it, the parents refused to help out?

If you put it this way…then it seems like the parents have issues with the daughters besides the gora husbands.