Re: Is this some form of bullying at work?
Oh yeah - the only thing that makes me laugh now is Alhumdullilah i have such an amazing life now - and she is still there. From what i hear, she is unmarried and she is pregnant. Oh, and she said she's a muslim and during Ramzan she goes to the casino - I guess i got the last laugh!!
Re: Is this some form of bullying at work?
Well guys, the manager spoke with her and then asked me to join them (the manager had told me she was going to do this)
So we sat in the room and spoke, manager encouraged me a lot to express everything.
Thos other girl was like "You don't want to come to work becaus eof how I treated you last Thursday?" she said it in disbelief!!
She wouldn't accept what she was doing was childish.....she said that she wasn't talking to me because she got told off for treating me bad by her TL....
Then she said that she wasn't talking to me because I don't make a point of going up to her each morning and saying "Good Morning"....she was really clutching at straws trying to explain her behaviour! I just looked in disbelief and the manager agreed with m,e that NOBODY does that
We weren't getting anywhere (neither me nor the mgr expected her to apologise - we'd discussed it before!)
Then she was just shaking her head saying she can't believe how I'm saying I'm being affected y her.......HUH???
Then I hit her with "AND I shouldn't have to have people coming up to me apologising for hearing comments about me from you and your little mini team"
Now that just shut her up, and she just looked down at the floor and said "Is that it?" and left.
The mgr spoke to me afterwardsand said that she was proud of me for being so strong and that she didn't expect the other girl to accept or apologise for her behaviour. It's so childish and we both agreed that her attitude stinks.
Then the mgr spoke to her colleague who's a friend of mine and afterwards this friend emailed me and asked for a chat...we went for a chat and she said that she wasn't talking to me as she was given the impression byt this other girl that I was talking about her and that I was stabbing her in the back!
She apologised for ignoring me and being childish, and said it was all because of misinformation from the other girl.
I just told her that she was being labelled the same as this other girl and she was being tarred with the same brush as she was basically being influenced by her. We got so carried away talking we were chatting for an hour!
Then she went home and the mgr was still there, and she told me everything that she's discussed with this other girl.....basically that she shouldn't be led by her etc.
The other girl had stormed off not saying bye or anything to anyone.....just emphasising her childishness.
So anyway, mgr has said that she doens't want me to feel I can't come to work, and that maybe I should try going in on Monday and seeing what her behaviour is like.....
I had such a bad day yesterday, my weekend started off awful, I had a migraine, was being sick .......
Today alham du lillah, I feel a lot better
Insha allah I will go into work tomorrow, I have the option to leave if I can't cope......
Thanks for all your words of support :)
Re: Is this some form of bullying at work?
Good to know that there is progress:) never give up;)
Re: Is this some form of bullying at work?
Glad to hear its getting there WBM!!
Re: Is this some form of bullying at work?
glad things are looking up for u!
Re: Is this some form of bullying at work?
when she comes over to bully u in some way...glaze your eyes...like look through her and smile and keep on doing what you were.Dont show any negative reaction to her..just act as she is not there.
And also there must be like a help line where u can complain anonymously if things get to you more.