I haven’t been here for a while and I thought I needed new topics. Right now, I’m in sophomore year and uber stressed in high school. I just have some free time I want to kill on the school computer, and this is an issue I’ve been conflicting with my mom since Eid weeks before or so. I need to blow off some steam.
Okay as I said, this argument and even taunting has been starting since Eid day. As my mother has a large group of friends who she lavishly wants to impress every time she sees them. My dad is very annoyed by this sometimes. Now, I think some people have remembered me as the person who started the thread about how my mother forced me to go to places I didn’t want to go….this is the exact same situation, but its even worse. She now resorts as always insensitively to name calling and ruining self-esteem. I snap back to every snarky thing she says and I’ve just had it with her this time
The whole story begins as her friends and their family decided to go to a Chinese buffet resteraunt to celebrate and feast on the day of Eid, right?
So, of course I’m forced there along with my siblings. There aren’t many tables and there were the kids of my mom’s friends sitting and talking and gossiping away. Again if you read my previous old topic those girls were much older and much snottier then me, and I disliked them. They were also sitting with my twin cousins who are in college as well and I haven’t talked to them in a while, yet I felt a need not to sit with them either. They haven’t spoken a single word to me, not even a eid mubarak so I said to myself screw them. I did not sit with them, because I had every right not to. My mom sat with her own friends as usual. I sat with my siblings, just eating quietly and calmly and trying to enjoy the food.
Some days later, my mom is on the phone with my aunt (the twins’ mom) and she is upset that I wouldn’t sit with her daughters or my so-called ‘friends’ who were much older then me. I could hear what my mom was talking about but I didn’t say anything. Some days later, she then turns to me and goes on and on how I never ‘mix in’ with the girls, how I am being a stupid arrogant person, how I am too distant and full of myself, and how I’m a batameez. I finally lose it as I’ve ranted to her about this before and she should have known it. Even my cousin’s wife who is about as old as my mother understood me better then her, which is a shame, and my dad didn’t care much either. I had my reasons not to sit with them. Want me to list them for you, GS? Fine, I will.
Once again they were OLDER THEN ME! Its difficult not having the same age group, because I’m still in high school and they think I’m childish because I like to draw and do all sorts of stuff a ten year old do just for amusement.
She says that they are desi and there aren’t that many desis in Virginia. Wrong, mom. They are plenty of desis in our area and what makes them special if they are , anyway? I have American friends who are five times better then any of them, better then five of them combined.
They.Are.Everything.I.Hate. Literally. Gossiping, Bollywood, Bollywood, music, dancing. Everything I HATE! I’m more of a romantist and I think they are stupid. None of my interests are relevant to theirs. That’s like being married to a Cyclops.
What do I do GS? My father doesn’t really care about this ordeal (hell he doesn’t even remotely like half the husbands of her friends :p) but my mom would do anything to make anything go her stubborn way. I seriously don’t want these girls in my life whatsoever, and already my mom accuses my freedom of speech as ‘batameezi’ or beghairti. 
I feel oppressed and really stressed out. And usually my stress takes it out on other stuff.
but she’s in high school, I’m much too older :hinna:.