OK, so I was at a public event last weekend that was arranged by our mosque. During the event, a bunch of kids from the community were to receive prizes and certificates for an essay competition they had participated in during Ramadan, some kids had prepared nasheed and recitation of the Qur’an, and we also had speeches by city officials such as the Mayor, etc.
Dinner would be served later.
So the program starts and the women are sitting in a room that is connected to the main room where the stage is. Their chatting starts and soon it’s a fish market. So a few of us that were volunteering to help out, tell the women to hush and listen to the little children that have worked ever so hard. Twenty seconds of silence and the noise starts again.
My questions are:
Isn’t this jaahilyat that an adult woman has to constantly reprimand adult women to pay attention?
Aren’t you proud of your children to see their accomplishments up on stage?
Are you so darn hungry for talking that asking for half hour of silence will kill you?
And then you roll your eyes at me for politely asking you to remain silent for a few minutes? And I find out later that some women were imitating me too .
What example are you setting for your children, oh woman, the mother?
The worst part was that we had a very diverse gathering of women…and I hate to admit it but our Pakistani and Indian women were the ones I’m talking about.
Discuss with me please. And this isn’t the first event I’ve experience this…and oh don’t get me started on the animalistic behavior at dinner time :).
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Lol and @ and oh don’t get me started on the animalistic behavior at dinner time ..
Remind me of masjid during ramdan when dinner was served and how ladies were not moving an inch from food they were eating standing eating there and wouldn’t let anyone to fill their plates
^ I hate this as well!!! Why is it so freaking difficult to be quiet??!!!!! It is like a fish market where ever we go...I have noticed this in quite a few Asian cultures, not just Pak & India...
I went for a hindi movie once over here on a week-end...biggest mistake ever...all they do is talk and talk...why come for a movie..sit at home and talk!
Yes I've noticed this as well it seems the only time they are quiet is when the food is in their mouths
No no, it doesn't even happen then. :) Our women are great at multitasking: eating, spitting food in projectiles, talking, spanking their kids, and taking phone calls at the same time.
I see this all the time in the masjid ... and it's so awkward telling the aunties to turn down the volume, shouldn't it be the other way around?
It's very disrespectful and looks so bad when grown ladies act like a bunch of teenagers.
Oh, I'm one of the first ones to hush the aunties. They can do what they want in their own time and place, but at a masjid and at events like this, I feel no qualms telling them to:Bara'ay meherbaani, aap please khamosh rahein. Is waqt zakir/bachain, etc. kuch kah rahein hain. Hum sab sun'nain ki koshish kar rahein. Or maybe something along the lines of: Is darsgah ka kuch to ehteraam karein.
niks, you're right- its absolutely disgraceful. its almost like thats the only time they get to socialise with their friends. have a girls night out, for crying out loud!
Seriously I've just about had it with such Pakistani women in public gatherings and places. They have absolutely no regard for manners or ettiquettes and just create havoc wherever they go. I went to a desi restaurant the other day with family and this toddler kept crying at the top of his lungs, like literally screaming for at least 20 minutes. And the parents just sat there eating without realizing there are other ppl in the restaurant too. They made no effort to calm him down and their kid kept crying on their way out! I have no tolerance for this in a restaurant let alone in a masjid. If I were you, I would have actually walked up to them and told them to step out in the corridor if they want to catch up on their gossip!! It's unbelievable the way some desi folks act. I get embarrased on their behalf!
Remind me of a friend
Well it was very very nice of her she used to invite me like Maine haleem/biryani/nihari/korma banaya hai aaj mere sath dinner karna… When I go to her home, her kids will start fighting on dinner table they will throw glass/plates drop water all around on table,and my friend will be very busy with her kids,she hardly speak a word she will just shout and shout on her kids.
I mean if you are inviting someone then feed your kids before the guest arrive,or simply don’t invite anyone at all.
what annoyed me the most, and this is disgusting, is when my grandad died. and women came to do afsoos. and they CHATTED away, they mustve met their long lost friends and were all over each other and talkd nonstop. throughout the entire day. and what made it worse, my grandads daughters, well 2 of them, my aunts JOINED IN...helooooo your meant to be grieving, your dad just died. but my aunts were part of the whole thing.then my mum asked them to be quiet as we were all reading surat yasin.weird people.
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