is this normal?

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Re: is this normal?

@stoppit

If you haven’t met the guy yet then I think you should do that before jumping to conclusions.

With the exception of the second point, on paper, my brother sounds the same. The first, because of religious reasons he doesn’t feel comfortable in those places and also the way we have grown up has made us all prefer home cooked food to eating out anyway.

Same goes for ‘activities’ such as bowling or cinema, we NEVER did these growing up. We do occasionally now but not as often as is usual for most people. So yah, my brother stays at home mostly unless he’s doing something useful… so he is out (more than he’s at home) but mainly for intellectual pursuits. We disagree on this point because I think there’s nothing wrong with a little bit of chilling out but he’s very geared towards using every minute doing something useful. That’s not to say he doesn’t do stuff but it would be paintballing, not bowling, for example. He loves travelling but again, he turns his nose up at most destinations, preferring places off the beaten track that are probably on the list the embassy advises not travelling to.

So I think you just need to find out more about the guy, you will either find his life is too quiet for you or his pursuits are too different.

Thankx for ur reply stoppit! i really do think i have to meet him before anything…
So far im quite liking him, maybe thats y i wasnt paying attention to the points i mentioned.

@ mama ki dua: he isnt a momma’s boy at all, actually he has almost never spoken of his mom so far. If he talks abt fam members, he talks abt his dad and siblings also..

@ hareem: he’s not from pakistan.

he is not conservative as far as i can judge, but has his own priciples which he keeps saying. He is allways fine with diasagreeing, i dont have to have the same opinion…

And the second point is not a big surprise, but its a real hatred i think… which comes across as narrow minded…