One of my closest first cousins has been back in a nearby country from Pakistan for more than a month now but did not even bother to contact me even once
My phone number has changed since when she went to Pakistan but my email is still the same…I’ve been waiting for an email ever since the day I found out she was back and I was so excited n happy she was coming back…I was literally counting the days…but she never contacted me
Ok so she has a husband and a small baby boy and I think she works part time as well or something like that…but like she should have emailed me right? It doesn’t take that much time to email And I have seen her husband is online on MSN sometimes which means she does have net access…
I think she just doesn’t care about me anymore I mean I only found out from my other family members that she was back…unhon ne toh mujhay bataya tak naheen…and before she always used to get in touch with me…
Do you think she’s thinking I will call? But I don’t think so…I mean, technically I wouldn’t even know that she’s back since she never told me right…?
My brother thinks I should just call her…coz I mention it to him every week k unhon ne abhee tak mujhay naheen bataya and every time he is like why dont u just call her…
recently i thought abt it and i was like what the heck i’ll just call her…but now i dont wana b/c i know she’s older than me and I know when I do call woh ulta mujhay kahein gee k irem u never even called me bari baymurawat ho gayi ho…and then i am going to feel bad…
lekin the truth is clear and its obvious she has gotten married now ab toh husband aur bachay mein busy ho gayi haen ab cousins kis ginti mein atay haen muj se touch mein rahein ya na rahein woh waisay hi khush haen waapas aa gayeein aur itnay din ho gayay ayay huay lekin mujhay bataya tak naheen
Dont worry what she will say to you once you call, just call. Perhaps she is busy and will be the one apologizing to you instead of you to her. I have found that when ppl get married, their number one priority is family and often get carried away with family things, and sometimes dont make time to do little things like email or call friends. Doesnt mean they do it intentionally, its just they are sooo busy.
I'm sure she will be happy to hear from you. Give her a call girly, and dont torture yourself with all these assumptions. smile
irem....i just felt u r one of my cousins n this thread is about me ...:)
well, no i don't have any cousin in a near by country ...but i can tell you 100 reasons ....of not calling you ....if i were her ....:)
come on , call her now .....u shouldn't feel bad ....i think she does care about u but it may be just her tight schedule ....!!!:)
Irem, be the first one to call..kia hua agar apki cousin nay dant diya..i am sure she'll be glad that you called..aur gilay shikwoon kay baad..dil bohat khushi mehsoon karay ga..
one of my really good friend called me and gave me her new number..and i lost it..i kept on thinking kay she might call me..but she never did for 4 months..so i decided to email her and take a chance..as she doesn't have access to computer..and next day she called me..and telling me that she thought i left canada..and she also like myself missed me..so sometimes..its not bad at all..to be the first person to break the ice..
call her and you'll be glad that you called her inshAllah :)
Im so bad at calling people,my friends and cousins,most of them may feel like how you are feeling about your cousin right now :-) But I kow how much i love my friends and cousins and how much i care for them.
kuch logon ki adat hoti hai shikwe kerne ki aur kuch logon ki bilkul bhi nahin.May be aap apni cousin ko phone kero aur woh aap ko bilkul bhi na dantein.... and beleive me you would feel very good after this call :) or at least it happens to me ....
aysha - u r right yaar, life is too short…kon jaanta hay shayad aaj ka din meri zindagi ka aakhri din ho i’m going to call her on monday after my final exam…
uff i am so stupif for even making it such a big deal now i feel dumb n overly stupid
thanks yaar
Qrius baji - that was a sweet story aap sahi keh rahi haen, shikwon gilon ke baad dil khushi mehsoos kerta hae
thanks Qrius baji luv ya
i’ll call her inshallah on Monday after my exam
kashish - how r u? u r not bad at replying, u always reply to my pm’s on time, i am the one who takes ages, i am very very bad at replying to PM’s, returning calls etc, actually i am a very disorganised and late lateef type of person Allah mujhay tofeeq de improve kerne kee
but i am so glad u understand how i am feeling…thanks sis
and i will call her inshallah on Monday after my exam
i think she is trying to prove that she is better than you or somthing. Send her an insulting email followed by a demeaning phonecall putting her back in her place. Goodluck!
Dontchu be talking abt my lovely sweet baji like that n dont u be telling me to do these mean things to her i love her much more than u love that teddy of urs that lies on ur bed u weirdo
irem... i find that teddy highly girly and i only agreed to take care of that teddy during the summer period out of respect for my friend. i dont play, talk or enjoy that teddy bear.
remember one thing my dear that not replying to emails or letters or phone calls doesnt make a person bad … May be some people think it does,i dont. main theek thaak ho,tum sunao,exam over? aish ho rahe honge phir
yeah dont forget to call ur cousin … see you.
oh sweet Moses, why do women, notably desi women, have to have so much drama in every aspect of their lives. "hai woh aa gaien lekin call nahin kiya, hai meiN apni jaan lay looN gi".
For f**k's sake, either pick up the phone and call her and ask her point blank why she didn't bother letting you know, or get over it and stop harassing everyone and their dog about how baji came and didn't call.
irem yaara..
just call her... a few years back when i got back from paki... a friend of mine expected me to clal him and give him all the nitty gritty details of my holiday..
and i was expecting him to call.. ofcourse him being the munda he was.. didnt call.. and instead yelled at me when i finally did call..
so yeah... just call her.. its better than getting upset... haina?
ive always believed keh make ur fist move…issi mein behturi hoti hei…shuq aur shuba bohut buri baat hie…phone na kurne se Irem baji aap ka koi naam ya izzut tau thori ni na ho jaye gi…:nono:…so go ahead!..coz dont u think she will think keh u being younger are a better person to phone in and welcome her etc…
yeah go ahead irem..if you haven't...i even met my friend who was out of touch..and she came over to spend a night with me..we made her favourite dishes and gave her gifts..she was so happy when she left :)
And I have seen her husband is online on MSN sometimes which means she does have net access…
I mean I only found out from my other family members that she was back…unhon ne toh mujhay bataya tak naheen…and before she always used to get in touch with me…
i’m going to call her on monday after my final exam…
now i feel dumb n overly stupid
n dont u be telling me to do these mean things to her 
much more than u love that teddy of urs that lies on ur bed 
u weirdo 
