my hubby is a gem of a person ,i am not here to badmouth him,its just that when it comes to household things he thinks i am a big nut:(i was studying when i got married ,so learned cooking and other stuff after shaddi,but now i am quite good in cooking and cleanliness is in my nature :)but when it comes to driving the car ,he prefers to take me everywhere,even tough i know how to drive:smack: and when i need grocceries he make sure that he’s with me AGAIN,he says i spend alot for e.g instead of one coke can i should buy the whole litre bottle because its cheap.my point of view is that i wont learn like this if i wont do things alone:aj:by this nature of his i am losing confidence,i am begining to think that maybe i am not a good driver,maybe i spend too much:hmmm:but if i am not a good driver how the hell did i got my licence.
how can i convince him that i can do better things and i need a little space .
first question, was he born and raised in pakistan or elsewhere? if pakistan i understand his actions. secondly r u guys on a tight budget? maybe its his way of teaching u how to shop on a budget. i don't think it has anything to do with driving i think its the shopping he's worried about. btw. my hubby did the same thing when we started out. i used to think he loves to grocery shop. now that we're well settled, he doesn't bother about grocery shopping or any other shopping bill.
I would say be happy he goes with you for grocery shopping and maybe later on he can do them for you haha. Ok jk. But seriously I have seen couples where the wife complains about how the husband wont even lift a finger for anything related to household chores. I have also seen them cry since they had to do grocery shopping, while the husband justs sat in the car, right after c-sections! So be a little grateful hun and just talk to him.
yes he was born and raised in pakistan:) and NO we are not short of money,i just feel he just wants to be centre of attention, i am not saying that he wont go with me for grocerry shopping,i am just saying give me a free hand too.he should act like my hubby not like my dad:)
Neither. If anything, maybe some sort of an insecurity on his part. The insecurity may have something to do with not feeling important in your life, not trusting other people with money in general and you just happen to be one of the people in his life, or some other deep rooted limiting belief either about himself, people around him or the world.
Talk to him about it. You don't HAVE to dig into what's going on with him. Talk to him about how it makes you feel. If those conversations don't go over well, you may have to try to figure out what his reason is.
There is nothing convincing here which is presented by OP what she has claimed is true.
Getting license does not mean someone is a good driver.
Saving money or giving her tips on saving money is not a crime and nor it means he does not trust her. She has not given any example what exactly she buys instead? A small coke bottle or cans etc. which ARE expensive and for many people this could mean something unnecessarily expensive.
A woman should be thankful if her husband accompanies her during shopping. He could stay home watching a movie, or play a video game or worse… while she is doing grocery. Those wives would come and complain too.
There are women who do not want to learn driving so their husbands do all these works for them and they sit in passenger seat checking their make up.
Women are never satisfied. Complain complain complain…
Wow! Asking for space is a dangerous call you might not want to take this call !
If your hubby is a ‘Gem of a person’ then consider him as a typical male with ‘delayed syndrome’ of trusting even his own mother,lol
I think with time all will be just great for you.
You mentioned he takes u everywhere, does that mean he drops u off when u want to see a female friend, stuff like that, or does he let u drive around urself when u want to? If so, it's prob not lack of trust.. if he insists he always has to take u, regardless of where ur going of course I'd think it is a trust issue..
Some ppl are saying ur lucky he takes u to the supermarket and so on but I agree with what u said about how will u ever learn if ur not even able to try, some guys out there prefer their wife to always be dependent (not saying ur husband is necessarily like that) on them cos they're insecure but it's really not wise to treat the wife like a child and act as tho she's 'lucky' she doesn't need to use the brain Allah gave her..
He might be insecure and wants to be the dominating person in the relationship. You would have to sit and talk with him. If you are working, then think about getting a second car...
my hubby is a gem of a person ,i am not here to badmouth him,its just that when it comes to household things he thinks i am a big nut:(i was studying when i got married ,so learned cooking and other stuff after shaddi,but now i am quite good in cooking and cleanliness is in my nature :)but when it comes to driving the car ,he prefers to take me everywhere,even tough i know how to drive:smack: and when i need grocceries he make sure that he’s with me AGAIN,he says i spend alot for e.g instead of one coke can i should buy the whole litre bottle because its cheap.my point of view is that i wont learn like this if i wont do things alone:aj:by this nature of his i am losing confidence,i am begining to think that maybe i am not a good driver,maybe i spend too much:hmmm:but if i am not a good driver how the hell did i got my licence.
how can i convince him that i can do better things and i need a little space .
help me out here.
He loves u and cares about u that’s y he do these things dont take it wrong
I am the complete opposite... I hate grocery shopping alone... I love it when my fiance comes grocery shopping with me.. It gives us some time together and practice for future lol.
i am not saying that he wont go with me for grocerry shopping,i am just saying give me a free hand too.he should act like my hubby not like my dad:)
