if living there without husband and missing him is less painful than coming back and suffer more, you should keep staying there. kuch paane keliye kuch khona parhta hai, as they say. Now its your choice to lose onething to get another. And why not. We may offer endless pieces of advice and scrutiny and may even go to the length of condemning you, its YOUR life. You will not have it again. So live it YOUR WAY and YOUR CHOICE. I dont think our religion will forbid you to make a choice for your comfort and convenience.
It is not her alone anymore , she has lives of two little ones attached to her. She has to consider what will happen to them in case she decides to stay back and her husband refuses to be a ghar damaad.
Nadz, your husband is probably looking for a woman who is seen only when making sammiches......and never heard unless it's to utter the humble words: "Yes, Master." This noble search must be taking place as you let out your love-lorn virtual sighs. The moral is to live and let live.
@nadz123....'tis all in jest. Sincerely do wish you and hubs sort things out.
What else? Here’s my contribution (on behalf of CM):
***** and ***** and ****** (thrown in for good measure). There is just no winning. When you’re with him you complain, when you’re not with him, you complain. Now go tell him you’re sorry and you will never question him and will agree with whatever he wants and suggests. And just to prove how sorry you are, go make him a sammich.
**Oh and real advice for Nadz: **Remember to hold gratitude in your heart for all the many blessings you have, learn to make compromises where there is no winner, but also no loser and remember, sometimes making someone else happy gives us our greatest joys in life.
Your role Nadz...was merely that of a sammich maker and baby producer. Since it's reasonable to assume that you only fulfilled one of these essential requirements....you are rendered a mediocre wife at best. Your husband's only role is that of a Mama's Boy......which you thwarted with your ever-looming, sniffling, sullen presence. Let your woeful tale serve as a caveat to those who truly wish to achieve marital bliss. All that is required is blind obedience, two slices of bread, cheese, lettuce, tomato.....
(gotta use the words, merely and caveat. They are oft-occurences in CM's ...cough....brilliant posts)
He is not dead yet , and once his ban period is over he will come back to dull seenay pay mong on all of us. 
