Is this Jealousy oR

Lifestyle Relationships
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just weakness of imaan?

Honestly! How many of you would have issues with;

  1. Sharing job opportunities details with your friends who are looking for work and so are you?

  2. Sharing rishte walo’s contact info when both of you are looking for prospects?

I wouldn’t mind in either case but i see so called “friends” and “well wishers” having issues with these and i find it quite odd. I thought as Muslims it is a basic belief that what is meant to be ours will be ours and nobody can snatch it from us. However we few people seem to actually have faith in this aspect and that really sucks :disgust:.

I am not saying everyone is like that as i know few friends, whom i wouldnt even say are close close friends, who keep sending me jobs details even when they themself r looking for work and they r more keen that i work and they keep pressing me for it because i am not interested in doing a job.

On the other hand, i m always going out of my way to help fellow girls in their rishta struggles, heck i even give myself headaches thinking of their difficult situations and what not. But they on the other hand are so guarded when it comes to sharing the details of rishte wali people they know of. One of them is actually engaged and to marry in 2-3 months but gosh, when i asked her to pass on the cntct info of a rishte wali she so praised about, she started coming up with excuses :eeks:. Now, why of all the people SHE who is now committed feel insecure about this?

I am not trying to praise myelf but honestly whenever i get a good rishta and for some reason i can’t progress with it (mostly cuz they r wanting to settle abroad :halo:) i always pass it to my friends. But i have yet to see anybody else do that for me or even anybody else i know, WHY is that ? :mad:.

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Re: Is this Jealousy oR

I think its a jealousy....... what else.

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Re: Is this Jealousy oR

Both.

Sharing such details don't harm anyone. Qismat se zada aur waqt se pehley kabhi kisi ko kuch nahi milta. If you are destined to get married to someone or to get a particular job, you will get it no matter what. Besides, everyone's criteria and preference is different in rishta and jobs so you don't necessarily create your competitors by sharing such info. Even if you are, not sharing such info won't help you much since its all about qismat.

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Re: Is this Jealousy oR

I know many people who have a great job in a great company...know their friend is looking for a job but will never help out with recommendations. In fact, they paint a very negative picture so the friend gets discouraged to even apply there. I also know people who'll never share a recipe, or leave a very important ingredient out.

I guess it's just a complex stemming out of jealousy.

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Re: Is this Jealousy oR

^ This :k:.

It’s really sad!