Re: Is this friendship illegal
Haha I am so sorry mate. I thought you were a guy! Scrap all that I said. If you are a female, it is okay to be friends with her. No worries. I just think you are a very compassionate and nice human being. Don’t over do the friendship thing, cos people do take you for granted if you just keep doing and there is no receiving. But yeah, apart from that, it is very good of you and admirable of you.
Thanks for the reply Dubaiwali. Love reading your posts.
I was as excited to see RV’s response that i posted twice. Sorry i didnt make it clear. She gave birth in April and her daughter is only few weeks old. Then she had to go to hospital and her husband works long hours. I feel like at this time she needs a lot of support and if she was back home in Pakistan her extended family would give her this support. Thanks for the compliments. I dont think im doing much. Just trying to help someone out with the knowledge i have. But then again others might view it differently.
I get easily emotionally involved especially if the friend was from Pakistan. Over past 8 yrs ive made about dozens of online female friends from Pakistan or Pakistani background in UK and US. But as happens with Indian online friends they disappear or deactivate and then u never hear from them again. Friends uve got to know for yrs even if just online and friends u have made bday videos for, Eid videos for. Then one day they might say my friends dont like when u compliment me and they dont think we should be friends. So i know what being used feels like. Then again ive made some amazing friends online including EasternDresses from GS who is my api that i wish i had those friendships here as well.
After i finished work i spent 3 hrs talking to her and i couldnt help telling her about my online Pakistani friends and how she reminded me of them. She said our friendship will definitely last forever but she needs help with her baby otherwise she will feel too exhausted.
You are right. I dont want him to be suspicious even though im just a female and she sees me as her sister. I dont want him to feel i am taking up all her time. She said she told him about me and he was happy she made a good new friend. Situation may change if i became too over involved. She said since her daughter was born they havent got any rest. I was tempted to say one day i can come over and her daughter can meet shaasavera khala
So far ive not met her but we have kept in contact. Ive sent her links to muslim women associations in australia where she can do classes including Quran classes when she has time. Ive emailed this Pakistani Australian news paper about local Pakistani mother groups. And who knows through her i might be able to make other new Pakistani friends. I still have few cities left in Pakistan where i dont have female friends but i dont want it to seem im using her to make friends. She told me she was having a headache and i gave her some headache massage/self massage links as her mother in law is over and for her husband as well. To make her feel special i sent her some pakistani drama ost links including this one called saheliyan and she helped me understanding urdu words.
Maybe i have an obsession with making Pakistani friends who know. It could be because i watch many Pakistani dramas.
Its the first time ive come across a Pakistani female my age and first time ive given my number when she asked it. I think i got really emotional and said “i dont know if we will ever get to talk again. Its just lucky i came back and introduced myself otherwise probably u would go home tomorrow and we would never know each other and i would never get to have ur friendship.” Then she asked my number. I hope that didnt sound too desperate.
Good advice not to drive her to places. My Pakistani Australian friend warned me about the same. She has asked me for some advice on phone. I think i need to tell her it would be better to see local doctor about problems rather than me give advice from afar when im not really established myself. And maybe i can help her with uber to get to places.