Re: Is this friendship illegal
Thanks for ur input Paheli ji. Yes he does know about me and our friendship. I finished work and then we spent 3 hrs chatting by her bedside from 10:30 to 1:30 am. I told her i know its kind of unusual that im introducing myself to u despite everything being fine. Just wanted to see how you’re going. Are you from Pakistan? Where are you from? Etc after i left she told her husband and father. She said her husband was happy she made a new friend and has been encouraging her to get out more. She even told her dad about me and he was happy for her. But she feels a little depressed about things. Ever since her baby was born 4 weeks ago she and her husband have not get rest plus breastfeeding issues.
Next day she whatsapped me a good morning message. Then later in the day she told me she had been waiting a long time for her meds and to be allowed to go home. One of my friends was on that day so i asked her to please see someone i had met yesterday.
Then in the past week we have just chatted on whataapp. If i saw some urdu words in a drama i didnt understand i would message her. I sent her links to muslim women organisation, muslim and pakistani organisations/contacts. I helped organise breastfeeding nurse to visit her house as they had planned to but they had lost contact with her. They said it would be good if she visits the clinic because then her child would be in the system.
She left on a weekend so she couldnt get her hospital summary and one for her family doctor. So i asked her the fax and sent it to him so that when she visits her doctor for follow up or vaccinations with her child he would know the story.
We have not met yet but ive not met the wife either since we met about 11 days ago. Her mother in law is here till the 20th of May so she has good support then.
I explained my situation to some pakistani and indian colleagues. They said it was good to help but u shouldnt give your number. And i shouldnt meet her in person. She can find travel and she can go to local Masjid to find groups. But for some reason i feel i should help her out. She considers me her sister and she has no other family permanently here.
So at this stage we are just whatsapp friends and in mean time ive facebook messaged some Pakistani Australian groups and a Pakistani Australian newspaper. Ive only heard back from the paper and they sent a number she can contact for Pakistani female groups in the area.
I told her i have found some good groups for her where she can make lot more friends. But hope she will not forget me. Just recently 2 friends i had from rawalpindi disappeared from.fb. Telling her this and talking to her gave me sukoon so least i can do is help right.
Maybe if i find good info it can help other women in her situation in the future. It could be information i can give to the hospital.