Most of my adult life, I have been “simple”: not much make up, plain long hair, set goals in life, not wanting too much out of it etc etc. I recently moved back in with my family after being away in a different city for a few years. And all of a sudden I am a different person: I got a hair cut, spend quite some time styling it, wear makeup more than i used to, got colored cotacts (although i used to think it was being fake to wear colored contacts!). Not only that, I also have different, higher experctations out of life now. I dont want to go into the details but this is downright scaring me. I mean is this normal to wake up one day and find out that you are a totally different person that you used to be? Or is this a mid-20s crisis? Or am I reading too much behind the lines?
i'm going through the same ....i mean changing myself ....
i'm the type who is quite comfortable spending all day in my nighties ....not doing my hair ....no make up at all ....except for the lipstick i wear on eid or for the first few months after i got married .....
but after 7 years almost ....my hubby is now able to finally make me change myself .....
i do find it odd sometimes but now i'm dolled up at 6:00 am every morning ....
wearing lipstick ....n even have some henna on my hands sometimes
but to be honest ....this change is making me feel more happy n active .....n full of energies ....strange ...isn't it ...!!!!
.but i know the reason ....its what my hubby wants ....that i should take care of myself n
Afia baji: thanks for the reassurance. I do like my new self, i feel better too but its just different from who i am used to be. And I guess the "newness" of it all is a bit scary. Plus, you have your husband to get all dolled up for, I dont have a husband yet :D
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No friends are like a$$ kissers, they always blow up and exaggerate. I will help you and I am your new friend that won't BS. BTW I like your new new, the way you've described it. Keep it up. Nothing wrong with it, it's one life to life enjoy it. If contacts and hair do's tickle your bone today go for it. Now be a good girl and PM/Post your new and old self.
Let the guppies decide. Hell If Iraq can have votes, why can't you.
I'm currently in the process of changing my entire self. Last few months have brought huge changes, to my life and changed my outlook on things, my plans for the future, my expectations for myself. I feel like a totally different person than I was a year ago, even six months ago and I'm glad. I think about it and sometimes I loathe the person I was. Other times I wish I could go back to those days, because I did have a lot of fun. But that fun screwed me over and consequences are un-fixable.
I can relate to all this, I was a tomboy didn't care about my hair make up.. nothing, lived everday as it came...wasn't to bothered with tomorrow..things change as you grow you realises that there's so much u can do, if make up makes you look a tad bit better then why not, if combing your hair makes you more presentable then why not, setting career objectives and acting all "professional" makes you a more focused person then why not, a change is good...I shoudl think.
irem: are you saying i am gonna go back to my massi-pana?
Sara516 and LK: Thanks for not missing the point. The physical change in me is important to me but so are some of the "materealistic" aspects. I feel i dont like al of the new me since I noticed i started caring about things in life I didnt care about earlier. Money, status, etc etc etc. If these things didnt bother me last year, why should they bother me today? So i guess change should be positive as it has been in changing my appearence. But if it goes any further to change my outlook on what is important to me in life and what is not, that change is bad and should go right back to where it came from :)
Let me explain. If you're a guy and u suddenly wake up and have this urge of putting on makeup, styling your hair and what not. CHances are that you are gay.