Any person, whether they be a DIL, MIL, BIL, whatever - who weighs and evaluates relationships based on material things - is setting themselves for nothing but doom.
Good luck to you ladies in achieving peace of mind and contentment.
you know - keep this in mind forever!
No matter what in-laws are ALWAYS going to support hubby and their own daughter ONLY - be it materialistic things or things they do wrong .. in-laws will still see them as "perfect"...
I think as DIL, we should NEVER COMPARE what they give to their OWN daughters, and how much less or cheap stuff they give us. Do not keep an expectation that you WANT something from them. Do not think of how much they gave their daughter.... and so on.
I think if I want something, I would ask hubby to get it for me. If in any case he refuses, then I would see how urgent or important it is for me to get that stuff. Then I would just buy it with my personal savings. That's what I would do.
I think of it this way - we all are "here" for "some" time. What I get is a reflection of WHO I am to others. They will give me more if my nature towards them was GODLY too.
So be happy with what you have or go and get it by yourself. (Not meant to be rude to you - but that's how I would do)...
NJJJJJJJJJJ - good, good, good stuff.
I love reading stuff that is true to the core. Not psychobabble stuff from textbooks.
you know what i did when my cousins kept sending me rubbish suits whilst i had sent something really nice? i sent them them a similar style suit back? and then i phoned them and said since you getting me these lovely ( i.e rubbish) suits i assumed you bought them for me because you liked them too, so i bought one for you too.....
Was your masters in family politics?