Friend comes across a post on her fiances page about forgetting some girl.a ghazal shared in urdu of some other poet Messages him to clarify. He says its just poetry and poetry in genreal is deep etc and not personal ( he seems offended) ..she does not really believe him ( again because of this one post) and actually wants to end this ( marriage was planned in few months) she thiks he is not really interested and is bieng pushed into this marriage and is trying to forgt some one
Everyone has a past there are always people you will have fond memories of, sometimes for the rest of your life. Our past makes us who we are. Your friend is definitely overreacting. If the boy says he wants to marry her then she should believe him and not make assumptions.
It is his job to prove that he is the best man she could ever have and hers to prove that she is the best woman he could ever have.
Completely depends on their mutual understanding and acceptance of eachother. If she does not have a past herself and does not want to have or think will not be happy with such a man then it is her personal preference. However, if the guy treats her good, respects her and values and appreciates her and partnership with her then that is what matters the most than his past. On the other hand, if her company is actually making him miss his past even more that he cant stop making mentions of it then maybe she should rethink marrying a guy who is more into his past than his present.
It completely depends on how much strongly both feel for one another and whether they are truly excited about presence of the other in their lives & are excited about spending a life time together, make a family. Major dissatisfaction with your husband/wife to be over any aspect is a red flag and must be discussed between them before long term commitment.
Does the girl feel strongly about him to look past his past? If not then she needs to give herself some time to decide before ending or making a long term commitment to the guy. But as I said if he truly respects her and treats her well then she should not end it as that is what matters the most than anything else.
She should trust her gut feeling. I have heard that excuse before, the one “oh it is just poetry”. Unless he is a poetry enthusiast, writes poetry in his spare time or has poetry books etc. this excuse is pretty bs.
I think she is bothered because he posted such a thing after being engaged to her says it it just poetry and was offended when questioned. There is alot of poetry that can be shared to share one that is so specific about forgetting a girl is a bit wierd
He is really into poetry apparently very fond of literature but even then the choice of poetry is odd and kind of disrespectful to his current relationship.
Thinking of calling off the marriage because she thinks she read something between the lines? Totally absurd. Social media has totally nuked common sense
Step 1: Guy posts a poem on social media
Step 2: Girl gets suspicious and msgs him to clarify
Step 3: He clarifies that its just a poem.
Now this should be it. You get concerned, you asked question, you get a reply. So the whole matter should finish now. But no its a typical desi situation so there gotto be a step 4.
Step 4: Girl now thinking to finish everything based on step 1.
So why did she even ask him if she didnt want to accept the reply. Thats so stupid. If this is the level of trust she’s got then I guess its better to finish now then later cuz with this “my way or highway” attitude, its bound to break.
