Should a desi couple be able to get a divorce or the lack of sexual intercourse amongst the couple? Would sexual experimentation be another valid reason? And would it be valid for a husband or wife to deny his or her partner the right to sexual experimentation.
No you perverts this does not mean orgies and gang bangs. The sexual experimentation is limited to the couple. Don’t be pervs.
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Edit: It was a light joke with brother CM, I know he doesn't mind it but some people do.
Anyways, I appolgise brother CM, if my comment hurt you.
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If your spouse refuses to have sex with you for a non-medical reason, yes you should try to get a divorce.
My opinion at least. First though, try to change your spouse, go to counseling if available ect.
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I had no idea what you meant by experimentation until you named all of the possibilities....
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Now for the question - I don't think it goes that far with desi couples. If you are into experimentation, and so is your lady, well thats heaven for you right there. If she ain't into some of the stuff, you might as well forget you ever watched that porn that gave you the idea, cause that ain't gonna happen. Lack of sexual intercourse is of course an extreme situation. Unless mutually agreed and working out well for the both of them, that is like denying one's rights and can be a valid reason for parting ways.
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First consult a knowledgeable scholar.......deleted.......if he approves...then ok.........if not then you can't divorce.
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I remember once a scholar mentioned the problems a couple faces in their relations, when their sexual life is not in accordance to the following rules mentioned by the Prophet (saw):
Allah’s Messenger(s) said: “In the sexual act of each of you there is a sadaqa.” The Companions replied: “0 Messenger of God! When one of us fulfils his sexual desire, will he be given a reward for that?” And he said, “Do you not think that were he to act upon it unlawfully, he would be sinning? Likewise, if he acts upon it lawfully he will be rewarded.” (Muslim)
According to a hadith:
“Not one of you should fall upon his wife like an animal; but let there first be a messenger between you.” “And what is that messenger?” they asked, and he replied: “Kisses and words.” (Daylami)
These “kisses and words” do not just include foreplay once intimacy has commenced. To set the right mood, little signals should begin well in advance, so that the wife has a clue as to what is coming, and is pleasantly expectant, and also has adequate time to make herself clean, attractive and ready. As regards intimacy itself, all men know that they cannot achieve sexual fulfillment if they are not aroused. They should also realise that it is actually harmful and painful for the female organs to be used for sex without proper preparation. In simple biological terms, the woman’s private parts need a kind of natural lubrication before the sexual act takes place. For this, Allah has created special glands, known to modern doctors as the Bartholin glands, which provide the necessary “oils.”
It is still possible to read old-fashioned advice to husbands that a desirable wife should be “dry”–which is remarkable ignorance and makes one really grieve for the poor wives of such inconsiderate men. Just as no one would dream of trying to run an engine without the correct lubricating fluids, it is the same, through the creative will of Allah, with the parts of the female body designed for sexual intimacy. A husband should know how to stimulate the production of these “oils” in his wife, or at the very least allow her to use some artificial “oils.” This lack of knowledge or consideration is where so many marital problems frequently arise.
As Imam al-Ghazali says: “Sex should begin with gentle words and kissing,” and Imam al-Zabidi adds: “This should include not only the cheeks and lips; and then he should caress the breasts and nipples, and every part of her body.” (Zabidi, Ithaf al-Sada al Muttaqin, V 372) Most men will not need telling this; but it should be remembered that failure to observe this Islamic practice is to neglect or deny the way Allah has created women.
Following is the source of the full article:
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There are hadiths in which the Prophet (saw) mentioned about the details of having a good sexual relationship with a spouse. Unfortunately, some people laugh and mock the scholars who mention those details but if the Prophet (saw) doesn't feel ashamed of educating his suhaba (r.a) in this regard by mentioning the details, then why should we ?
At times those same people who mock scholars in this regard, you would find them sharing jokes that are sexually immoral and not for education purpose. It would usually make their friends laugh and not attract criticism.
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Alright GOGO you do have a descriptive imagination, I wil give you that. 
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Dude, you could keep quran and playboy on same shelf.
Not many ,muslims I know could do that.
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You lot are delete. Hell my trolling threads get trolled. That has to be unique or something.
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It's about the bigger picture.
Sex is one of many things which can bring happiness in a marriage. So if one thing is lacking, and every other aspect of the marriage is fine, it can be worked out, right? Better communication maybe.
Plus, if one thing in a marriage goes wrong (in this case sex) and there is talk of divorce, that couple would clearly have bigger problems than lack of sexual experimentation.
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It's about the bigger picture.
Sex is one of many things which can bring happiness in a marriage. So if one thing is lacking, and every other aspect of the marriage is fine, it can be worked out, right? Better communication maybe.
Plus, if one thing in a marriage goes wrong (in this case sex) and there is talk of divorce, that couple would clearly have bigger problems than lack of sexual experimentation.
some one please open another thread. title
communication Vs S-x
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Having read some of the stupidest things in the past that people have given a divorce for, I'm pretty sure that sex would be one of them.
Not saying that it should be one of them, but hey, who says people are logical, eh?
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You lot are delete. Hell my trolling threads get trolled. That has to be unique or something.
if you are suggesting that this is a "trolling thread" then I could get rid of it for you.....
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Muzna, PLEASE stop browsing the forums and go back to doing what you have been doing for the past few weeks. Please. You are absolutely awesome when you aren’t around much. 
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That calls for a ban.
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Thank you friend. I appreciate your feedback.
Unfortunately some of your associates make it very difficult for me to remain disengaged.
Waisay out of curiosity…I didn’t think that I had stepped on your tail at all here…what happened?
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Yee tu bohat baree baat hai, even husband breathing is enough reason to take divorce from him.
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Yee tu bohat baree baat hai, even husband breathing is enough reason to take divorce from him.
observation: when girls don't want to be with you (generally speaking that is) it ticks you off and when girls want to leave it ticks you off.........