When your fiancee/gf/ woman (I didn’t say wife) agrees with everything you say-- i mean, EVERYTHING!?
Movies? yeah, sure, like she digs SPR or Scent of a woman
Politics? yeah, overnight she is anti-brit like me.
Economics? she has the same general malaise of an impending doom in the global markets? Nigga please.
Sports? she hates baseball; jeez, what do you know, i hate it, too.
Music? “I like what you like.” Wait, you like Crash test dummies? “MMM MMM MMM?” Sure
My sister thinks since I am older than her and kind of dominating, she feels intimidated and that once she becomes comfortable around me, she will learn to express her own opinions about stuff. Well, what if she is a really a vapid person and doesnt really have her own opinions, and is only interested in raising children and browsing the home economics forum?Oh, the humanity!!
Few nights ago, I started talking about hijab to push her buttons. I think she faintly protested–she was quiet. If disagreement was radioactive, you would need a sensitive geiger-muller counter to pick that up.
Tonight, i am planning to ask her it okay to beat her up when I am angry.
And if she has too many opinions thas a problem naaaaa
What is her background?education, where she was raised etc..
From what ive seen grlz in Pak are taught to be ermm lack of a better word, “flexible”.. i.e., do what the hubby says, live where he lives, eat what he wants to eat etc etc, whereas girls here are encouraged (by society if not family) to pursue their interests..
And what is so bad abt wanting to have babies and browse life2
awwwwwww,...........thats sweet though,....she must care a lot abt u n think that u won't like it if she disagrees or sumthing,......n don't aske her that!!!!,....u'll probli scare her off!!!!
dope uncle ... common.....y do u have a problem with that u should be happy...... all girls are not like that...i never agree with my man.... and we fight like crazy... but then we luv each other like crazy too :D
Sara,
With that, i think, i just opened a pandor'a box. Yeah, i know i want the best of both worlds. Smart, educated, funny, intelligent, but docile, submissive and obedient at the same time. Have opinions when I want you to have it. I am kidding.
She is five and a half years younger than me, in college, major undecided (I dont like vacillation), Born here, spent time in Pak, been back here since high-school. All sisters, no brothers. Parents like mine -- dominating father, subservient mother.
maybe she is smart enough to know you don't like women with opinion...so she keeps her opinions for herself
is that a bad sign? for you: no, it means she wants to please you....
for her? maybe...let's hope she won't regret it....otherwise it will be bad for you too
dope, ya know she is imaginery. You can mold her personality according to your whims. It's easy. Tell you what, next time you imagine a rapartee with your "fiance", give a little spine to her persona and then you won't have any complains. All will be fine and dandy in never never land.
Catty: I dont think thats the criterion I am looking for. I just someone smart enough to act dumb once in a while to make me feel like I am the man. I know I am stupid.
Shweets: Arghhh. I hate women. Why must you change after marriage? Why cant you be the same, lilke, ALL THE TIME?
Mywish: So, you are saying I dont love her enough since I dont agree with her enough? Now, you are making me feel like a moron who doesnt return the love. Or may be, like a typical woman, she is biding her time like shweets said.
MM: I only wanna see if i see any pulse when I ask her that Quran allows me to beat her --albeit lightly – when she goes out of line. I am not a wife beater.
Hmm dope i have been i the same situation. Half the time i didnt voice my opinions since i didnt think it mattered. And at times when it did mattered, i would usually not disagree with him to avoid arguments. And he had the same issue : why dont i argue back?
Looking back, i wish i had voiced my opinions more often. Its the desi mentality ingrained in us that women should keep quiet to avoid arguments :)
I think you should try not to push her buttons but to make her feel comfortable in your presence so she can talk about what she thinks and what she wants.
Back off dope let her wings expand and let her fly wherever she wants. I know its extremely tough and i know as being an older sibling we sometimes forget where to draw the line.
She has her own personality and she wont grow into becoming something that she could possibly be.
