Re: wedding shopping dilema
You're only getting married once. If you feel you happiness and satisfaction lies in you going to Pakistan and picking out all your things personally, then you must! I am also going to Pakistan from the US to do so. I know the 'halaat' are bad and 'hungamaz' are happening. But its not as bad as the US media makes it look. People still have thousands of wedding there in very short periods of time. And look at it this way, no matter how many or how little things you get to pick out, they will be the things 'you' picked out for 'yourself'' on 'your own'.
This is the most important day of your life so far, take a chance, splurge a little, do what makes you happy. Inshallah, everything will turn out impeccable.
Good luck!