Is there any hope for this couple

dhanya_podena · February 2, 2009, 5:21pm

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going to shrink is out of question, she has been asked for stress management but, as she herself works in a health related field, it has implications on her career and she does nto want to do it.

Niksik · February 2, 2009, 5:22pm

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Forget a psych... just take her to her primary care. Even they can prescribe an antidepressant. Once that starts working, she will be in a better position to have a sensible discussion. This is the time when her husband needs to demonstrate superior skills in patience and care. He needs to forgive her and focus on the root of the problem, how to handle it.

PakiAmerican · February 2, 2009, 5:23pm

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Niksik Ji. How long u been married? How many kids do u have?
I don't think taking her to physician will solve anything. The problem is with the specie not with a body.

I say again for all the husbands:
Trust me this life is not very long and will end soon then you will get out of this hell and will go to Jannat for tolerating her. (true for all husbands)

Niksik · February 2, 2009, 5:28pm

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PakiAmerican... I'll be married for 13 years this May, i'A. I have 2 kids.

dhanya_podena · February 2, 2009, 6:30pm

Going to any doctor does not seem to happen. This has been suggested and tried by some family members but she maintains that she has no problem and teh outburst was a ttemporary thing. I doubt that husband himself has capability of manouvering the situation. He is not a wise old man who can handle things. He himself is very stressed out.

Niksik · February 2, 2009, 8:01pm

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So then there are clearly other issues that aren't in the open and both parties are trying to shove them off by bringing up petty and more obvious ones. The situation is more serious than we know.

Mabrook · February 2, 2009, 8:17pm

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Advice the Wife that whenever she fees the urge to fight leave the situation immediately.go to a isolated corner.sit straight.then do the breath in n breathe out thing for 5-10 mins this will cool her off.Also start reading Teesra Qalma that will put the shaiytan off.Reading Allah humma inni aoozu bika min-ush Shaitaan nira jeem several times is also good to ward anger off*..*A quick splash on face,10 mins on treadmill will just divert her mind n she will b feeling less stressed.Later on discuss wat bothers her with her husband in a cool manner next day or so after the storm of emotions is cooled off..

Lusi · February 4, 2009, 6:53am

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They should consult a marriage counselor.

Straight_up · February 4, 2009, 7:06am

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There is always hope.

Couple can only make it work out if they really want to. If they don't then no amount of counselling and other tips will help them one bit.

Wife should think about things and husband should do the same. Both should make a decision and stick to it. If they are going to go separate ways, go. If not, then stay strong and commit.

Lusi · February 4, 2009, 7:23am

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Sometimes they do need a counselor kind of person who can help them understand their issues and their different personalities. I know it is not a desi thing to visit a marriage counselor but maybe it is time desi ppl change their mentality and be more accetable to counselors and psychiatrists who can help them resolve their conflicts and understand eachother better.

Natasha_3 · February 5, 2009, 1:45am

interesting.

twin_born · February 5, 2009, 2:33am

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They can go for open marriage relationship.
I think that it works sometimes but still if u r good @ sharing and u can get what u want.
YOu just need to put all options on table and see and discuss how u feel with your partner.
They work sometimes when u come home .....lol