Is the third time a charm?

Lifestyle Relationships
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What would you ladies think if you got a rishta from a guy who had been divorced twice?

Is it something to be alarmed about?

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Re: Is the third time a charm?

1st time is ok, but second time. :no:

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Re: Is the third time a charm?

umm yes… is this a rhetorical question? o.O :konfused:

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Re: Is the third time a charm?

i would be alarmed yes but i wud also be thinking k pata nahin uske kya circumstances thay jo woh three times divorce kar gaya

there has to be a way to find out why...if i knew the reasons then it wud be another story....but it seems premature to write someone off just because they had bad luck...what if he really was at little to no fault?

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Re: Is the third time a charm?

what about the other way around?

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It means he is a serial divorcer and you can be the next prey/victim of this habit of his.
If it was that one time he divorced second time she died third time he died then he deserves another chance.

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I'd definitely be alarmed...

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Me? Yeah, I have been divorced once. But you can't use that formula for everything and throw caution to the wind. I don't want to be divorced twice so of course I will think about it.

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No, I mean what would you think if a woman had? Would you be more sympathetic or do the things people are saying about the guy apply then too?

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I think I would be less sympathetic about a guy being divorced 2 times than a woman ... reason: the guy's the one with the ultimate right to divorce right there and then rather than a woman

plus a divorce is more of a stigma for a woman ..so for a woman who has been unfortunate to be divorced 2 times would somehow have more of my biased sympathy than a man. A man for the third time would be giving me more qualms than charm IMO :)

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2 times divorced guy vs 2 times divorced lady is not a black and white thingy. Many a times, a divorcee married another divorcee and that ended up in divorce too. So a pair of 2 times divorcee could come out of a single divorce. That is why we cant draw a line as to who raises a bigger flag if approaches for 3rd marriage.

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i would say unless you are a movie star, second time is a big big red-flag. only proceed with extreme caution, pre-nups, etc etc.

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You know not every one is a fan of their wives, specially if wife is pakistani :smiley:
But they stay in marriage because the fear of divorce.

Now with this dude you are going to lose that advantage… You have to keep him happy every day!

(All that if he is not a “serial divorcer” :omg:)

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i thought it was really important to comment on this... so here it goes...

a relative of mine, who is in his 40s, was married twice, the first time it was both their faults they just couldn't get along. the second girl had a disease she hid from him (intimacy was impossible). after his two divorces, he finally got married to a wonderful lady and they have two beautiful children mashAllah...

another guy who happens to be a college friend and is in his late 20s, was married to his cousin, it didnt work out. his second just ended a few months ago after being married to the girl for less than 3 months. She walked out on him a week after the wedding and basically married him for the enormous mahr.

Both are great guys mashAllah... so be cautious but don't rule out the possibility that he may not be the sole cause of the divorces...

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Unless both of his wives died under 'mysterious circumstances', I'd definitely look into it. Maybe he was just a victim of those hapless situations where he got stuck with crazy twice.

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The past is not necessarily prologue.

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So, should I find out the reasons or is this enough for me to back off? I don't really know the person...but am wary because it was hard enough going through one divorce. How does one go through two?

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^I would not bother going further. It's highly unlikely that he was a saint all throughout his married life. Divorce is hardly ever one sided..

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2nd time divorce should have 5 de-merit points on the license.

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lol… :rotfl: