Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

Lifestyle Relationships
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Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

I don’t know why everybody fights in life1 :bummer:

I mean as men and women we would always have our differences…but we need to accept each other…and love what is good and bad in each other…WE ARE NOT PERFECT!!!

Bad will always change with time and love :wub: or am i being too naive to think that???

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Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

Talk about yourself :snooty:

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haan jee, tau phir :snooty:

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Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

You married people are getting laid, and we are not.

Simple.

(ok, that's the guy's answer).

Really, there are serious issues in our community when it comes to gender relations and so if some people want to discuss them, then why not? About time women start speaking out about the things that bother them and start demanding some change.

And if you're not interested in those threads, then simply...don't tune in.

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see now…this is why we end up fighting…coz we have little boys like you who have even littler threshold of acceptance of their own faults!!! :barbie:

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Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

And you made that comment, you drew blood first not me :zobo:

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Now whom should I believe .. :hmmm:

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That's not true. I know some people who are divorced and they are happy that they are no longer with their previous partner.

The fact that our culture judges these people so much, (sorta like this comment of yours...) frustrates them, makes life difficult for them, and makes it super hard for people to find spouses once they're divorced (if you assume these people are divorced and have mental issues, then so do all the other single people out there now that COULD be marrying one of these divorcees).

Sometimes, our own judgements and attitudes towards others hurts them more than anything else.

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phir phur ..

that is what we used to say in college :hehe:

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I should correct that. Not all of us single people are not getting laid, for example, probably 1/2 to 2/3 of the single men on GS are actively engaging in sex I bet.

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I did not…u did…by calling ur self all perfect and being snooty about it with ur nose up in the air :zobo:

how many times have I told u ke naak neechiiiiiiiiiiii…patha nahi kahan jaa ke girega :cb:

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with girls, right .. so you can easily say that 1/2 to 2/3 of single people are .. why to call out men specifically ..

oh you know that if you say single women of gs are having sex to jootay parain ge, right .. :p

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Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

TLK, I'll be honest. I think desi girls are just raised with super strict standards compared to boys, and MOST of the desi girls I know didn't have sex until marriage (or are still virgins if they're currently still unmarried).

At the most, the girls around here I know of, and some I heard from rumors (like that would hold up), would go on dates with boys, and hold hands. I'm sure some may even have made it to a kiss.

But sex? Most don't. I'm sure some do. But from people I know, we were all involved in student MSA's, went to Islamic school, stayed involved in muslim activities and masjid activities, and they all looked to get married ASAP so that they could have sex the halaal way.

Maybe that's just been the crowd I hang out with.

However, it is pretty much known that nearly every desi guy in Miami has been laid at least once, and mostly by pretty and naive latin or white girls who have no clue that these boys dont ever plan on marrying them.

I have some guy friends who know A LOT of people down here, and finding a virgin guy is difficult. The only virgins, really, are the fat dudes or the really big nerds who have trouble finding girls in the first place.

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Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

And believe me. I have tried the nerdy and chubby crowd for rishtas. They've all been very angry people though. One guy, I remember, got really impatient with me when I asked him about some technical term that he used when describing what he does at work. Many of them can barely open their mouths and have a real conversation, cuz they just get super nervous. They are just strange kids.

That's a small minority of guys down here.

I don't know why we have so many sleezy families in Miami.

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Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

I trust what you are saying PCG as guys are more relaxed towards sex before marriage but generalizing it on GS that 1/2 to 2/3 of GS single male crowd is not virgin maybe a bit of a stretch.

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Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

They are more relaxed towards premarital sex FOR THEM. Not for us. FOR THEM. And you can see it in their replies in many topics I've opened up in the past. Very few guys have come out clean and said, look I didn't do it, and I would hope she didn't either.

That's SAD.

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People make mistakes at younger age. Guys have more liberty given to them by their desi parents in terms of going out and staying late (a mistake in my opinion) .. so they are more susceptible to all the pleasures, hence often end up losing their virginity as compared to desi girls of same age..

but that does not mean that later on they dont realize the mistake they made and cannot be embarrassed about that or cannot preach the right thing to others

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Yeah maybe that happens in your fantasy world. Not so in reality.

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Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

how do you know the inner workings of desi guy's brain so well? Were you a desi guy in your last janam?

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Re: Is the problem really that bad between men and women?

Same way that you know the inner workings of a pervert when you aren't one.