is the girl guity?

[ZareenKhan]

Re: is the girl guity?

@beatific

according to some people both male and female when a girl is being teased/ bothered by one guy or so its her own mistake… its her own behavior that let someone tease her by chasing, texting, calling or by other means that spoil her reputation…

whats your opinion about it?

Well it depends. In alot of cases, YES the victim usually has a part to play in being treated the way they are. However that is still no excuse for the accused to go on with such a behavior. It is quite tricky because most people think if you are wearing “western” clothes you must be easy to target or if you are blessed with a smiley face that definately means you are showing interest :halo:.

[Doppleganger]

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Please post evidence of what you mean by western clothes! :)

[NomiCA]

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western clothes!

any clothes that attracts poonds..

[beatific]

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@rizla86

well there’s no doubt that the percentage of desperate freaks is definitely higher here (depending on the institute of course, I doubt this would happen in a good university). hopefully your friend’s sister has learned her lesson here, don’t give out your phone number, even to your students.

it happened in a renowned university…it doesn’t matter here, i m talking about Pakistan, which ever city or which ever institute you are at u will face the same. may be some exceptions would also be there . ( no doubts some girls also enjoy such things but not all, the typical deep rooted mentality of men here is that all girls are alike. )

and you are right the girl got her lesson…

@The_Last_Straw

If a student needs additional help, the professional/school email and phone number can be given. And it’s better to provide the additional help on the school campus. This is the TYPICAL method for communication between teachers and students in a secondary school setting.

I agree that it was wrong for that student to leak your friend’s phone number to other students. But you can’t put all the blame on the students either. Your friend should have been more careful and she should have thought of the consequences of giving her phone number out.

If it’s happening “every other day,” then your friend needs to change her number or get a new cell phone. Why is she even receiving calls from the students? If she was really that disturbed by the behavior of her students, then she should have changed her number after the first couple of times that the students were bothering her. She wouldn’t allow the problem to happen every other day. Someone might question if your friend secretly enjoys the compliments and attention she’s getting. If she lets this continue, it can bring about rumors and jeopardize her reputation and her job.

yeah right its her mistake that she gave him her personal number. its all happened within only 1 week. she started receiving sms, call etc… she ignored it in beginning but when she realized that this is becoming unbearable she got her sim changed.

@ZareenKhan

Well it depends. In alot of cases, YES the victim usually has a part to play in being treated the way they are. However that is still no excuse for the accused to go on with such a behavior. It is quite tricky because most people think if you are wearing “western” clothes you must be easy to target or if you are blessed with a smiley face that definately means you are showing interest :halo:.

absolutely the victim’s role is also there… her main problem is her lenient behavior. she never snubs anyone bluntly she just ignores little mistakes or politely asks them to stop showing irresponsible behavior in the class.

[Monk]

Re: is the girl guity?

according to some people both male and female when a girl is being teased/ bothered by one guy or so its her own mistake.... its her own behavior that let someone tease her by chasing, texting, calling or by other means that spoil her reputation....

whats your opinion about it?

today i heard one girl saying that if a guy try to talk to me I without wasting a moment insult him in such a way that he doesn't even think to talk to me later on.

is this behavior appropriate?

if it is so then should the professional ladies such as Teachers, Doctors or others should adopt this behavior to avoid inviting negativity about them?

what islam says about it is, "when some one knocks at the door, if women inside want to answer, they should use strongest possible voice to answer"

Take it from a dude, if girls go too friendly we get phulgharis in our heads. which is not always a good thing.

[diwana]

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:) on phuljaris....^Well said. Too friendly was the key here.

[_RestLess]

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Seems like the female teacher is still in the learning phase.

She should keep her behavior modest and intentions crystal clear. However, if the problem still persists, and her cheerful & jolly personality is hindering her teaching; and the male students cant focus on learning .. then it's counter-productive.

She may have to shift gears and get herself transferred to a female only institution. There, she can practice her free spirited teaching style in full swing.

[beatific]

Re: is the girl guity?

Seems like the female teacher is still in the learning phase.

She should keep her behavior modest and intentions crystal clear. However, if the problem still persists, and her cheerful & jolly personality is hindering her teaching; and the male students cant focus on learning .. then it's counter-productive.

She may have to shift gears and get herself transferred to a female only institution. There, she can practice her free spirited teaching style in full swing.

this is what i suggested her to do...