On one hand, people from our parents’ and grandparents’ generations were a lot more conservative and conscious of what other people thought, added to which they mostly had arranged marriages. But on the other hand they churned out such lovely sentiments as reflected in these songs:
So, are men and women of our generation more or less romantic than the generations that have gone before them?
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The cricketing world has evolved from Test matches to T20 -the change is obvious in other parameters of life too .. wayse bii
Jab se hum hovey JawaN
jane koh ga’ee kahaN
SharmaNe , Gabrane wali larkiyaN
As we aren’t getting the right ingredients thesedays, thus we are enable to deliver the perfect recipe :hinna:
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they didnt get many choices, we get a lot of them.
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yee sub shadi k baad hota tha na 
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ishq murda hi rahe tou acha hai.
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Maybe romance is dead because the concept of courtship is dead. When our attitudes toward love and sex (d)evolve, so does our definition of romance. The songs, letter-writing and poetry you associate with more 'innocent times' were products of a culture that considered physical union sacred/holy. When physical intimacy is restricted because it's taboo/forbidden - as in our (grand)parents era - people put on the brakes and are compelled to discover each other in enduring ways. In a culture of instant gratification you don't get time to 'pine' - the inspiration for a lot of poetry/literature we celebrate today. Intellectual and emotional foreplay becomes an afterthought.
In a word, courtship facilitates 'romance', and when the former gets replaced with 'dating,' the mystery, and consequently the romance, is gone.
ps. It's ironic that women who are afforded sexual freedoms are obsessed with prudish Austen literature. Connected to the culture bit, have you watched the P&P with Keira Knightley/Matthew Macfadyen? I read somewhere that the version released in the US had Mr. and Mrs. Darcy kiss at the end, because apparently Americans can't understand love without sex. (Big surprise there). Where have the days of Carey Grant gone?
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I want a matt macfayden.
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@chaibiskut: That was so eloquently put.
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What made you think that romance is dead?
I certainly don't think so. I don't feel that only platonic love can be romantic.
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iono. all i know is, sehrysh, you're boreder than i am :(
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Now what makes you say that?
And yes, I am EXTREMELY BORED!
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I want a matt macfayden.
I hear ya sister. As much as I love to parody Mr. Darcy, the man is difficult to resist. Though I think Colin Firth more accurately portrayed his character in the original series. Matthew's wounded, watery eyes made it a tad difficult to concentrate on what he was saying ... le sigh.
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Thanks @Sehrysh. To add to your thread playlist, I imagine a number like this would have trouble selling today because you can’t pelvic thrust and grind to it. There’s nothing like a cheeky conversational duet :
(I love Sadhana, she rocks that fringe).
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The sentiments were reserved in music back then, just as they are now. Real life doesn't play like that. Romance hasn't died or changed, expectations of it have.
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Romance can neither be created, not destroyed but it can change from one form to another.
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yea writing urdu poetry, is it a lost art? some of those poems are so beautiful and have such intense meaning, are there no men that write such poetry to their women......that's romance right there baby
i really wouldn't go by those old black and white bollywood movies to give an accurate portrayal of how life was back in the day when our grandparents were young. bollywood is far faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar from reality.
