Is raising your hand on your spouse justified, if they cheated on you? Would you accept the proposal of someone who admitted of doing this to their ex wife, but who otherwise seems perfect?
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Regarding first question of yours: Violence , be it domestic or otherwise, is the worst thing in the world. Like absolutely worst. Raising hand on a woman, Jeez. Its terrible and criminal.
I would let the ladies take the second question.
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Before answering let me clarify if I got it right. So the wife cheated on the guy and he beat her up?I wouldn’t go for anyone who seems perfect. That sounds like trouble.
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yes, he hit her coz she was cheating.
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- No.
- No.
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There is no justification for hitting your girl, like absolutely no. Bulldoze that excuse
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No..
Do you really want to be with someone who could raise their hand in anger like that?
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Questions you asked can’t be just answered in yes or no, they are complicated.
Did he hit her often? If yes then that’s his pattern & its a red flag but if that was just a momentary reaction then I don’t think you should base your decision solely on that. I am not encouraging this nor saying what he did was right but what he did was just in heat of the moment as he got to know his wife is cheating on him which is a huge thing in my opinion so he might have lost it. He is a human & prone to mistakes, you can’t just judge him for that. If you are looking at what he did then look at the other person what she did too which made him give such a reaction (Again I am not saying what he did was right). He told you about all this & is being honest with you, if he wanted he could have hid this from you but he didn’t. I will say again that we all are humans & we go through all sorts of emotions in 24 hours but sometimes you are exposed to such a situation where you just lose it sometimes.
She cheated on him, thats disgusting & if a husband would have done that then I would say the same too.
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Raising your hand is justified only if you are in class asking a question…all other times..nope not justified.
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Absolutely not.
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^ exactly… there is no excuse. Absolutely none. I left a marriage where I was being beaten. There is no justification for this kind of behaviour.
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I’ve seen in America that domestic violence against women is insane here. I’ve lived in shady neighborhoods and have witnessed women getting punched & kicked by drunk bfs. Every week local news has some story about a woman getting gravely injured or killed.
On the other hand some women lie about it. For example, Reham Khan lied for a decade about her ex-husband of beating her. Ruined that guy’s reputation. Instead, she was the one who had a short temper and tried to seriously injure her ex-husband and slapped her new husband within a month after marriage.
Then there is an issue of what constitutes violence and what doesn’t. Law is very clear about it but life isn’t, especially if an act doesn’t involve bodily injury and is super rare. There is room for forgiveness.
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No
No
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So sorry you had to go through that Fbp. 
People like that are the lowest of the low.
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Sorry you had to go through it 
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A man who controls and contains his anger in the moment of complete vulnerability is the real man, not the one who will beats up his wife or go kill her lover.
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It’s okay @aqua70 and @LP I was fortunate to have the ability to leave. There are so many that don’t have the means to do so and it breaks my heart. You both are really lovely gals
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Group hug
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It’s frowned upon in the culture i was raised in.
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- No. They are more mature and sensible ways to deal with things.
- No.