did any of you girls living abroad get ‘moun dikhai’ from your husband? I’ve heard of it in Pakistan, but I don’t know if anyone I know here has done it. Fiance seemed clueless so I didn’t know if it was a regional thing. He’s hydro…do hyderabadis have that custom also?
I know in Pakistan, it’s usually gold/diamond, but are there any “rules” for what you give/get? Also, do I have to give him a present!?
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Well, I’m punjabi and as far as I’ve known we’ve always had moun dikhai in the family. It’s not restricted to gold/diamonds for us though. The guy can give the girl whatever he likes but usually girls prefer jewellery so guys end up going for that.
In regards to if you should give him a present, i say why not? I mean moun dikhai to uski bhi ho rahi he na? lol. I mean sure the tradition is for the guy to give to the girl, but personally when i get married, I’ll give my guy a gift because it’s his special night too 
Just give him whatever you like and he’ll be pleasantly surprised 
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Yeah, I"m punjabi too and I’ve heard of it when my cousins got married in Pakistan but not sure about what people from other areas in Pak/India do!
lol, I definitely don’t want jewelry which is why i was asking lol!
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In our family, moun dikhai is must. (Urdu speaking)
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lol, well he’s going to give it to you in the privacy of your room anyway. Might as well just drop a clue about what you want 
But yea…i have an indian friend, she’s from Gujrat…she did have moun dikhai but they dont give each other pricey gifts..i think he got her like a wallet or something..can’t remember. Anyway, she did have one..not sure about other indians. Why dont you just tell him, ok, we’re doing this tradition, we’ll exchange the gifts together. make your own little tradition 
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Sometimes it turns out to be a “fittay-moun dikhai” 
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Any such personal experience… 
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Well my family and my husband’s hail from Karachi (urdu speaking, bihari descent) and I got the regular diamond ring at the wedding. That’s what I thought moun dikhai was, but when we got to our room, he also gave me this really nice limited edition perfume. He was a bit chuffed because he’d had his brother buy it for him and he’d apparently bought the wrong one. It was kind of adorable, and I loved the gesture way more than the gift itself
Punjabi.. all my cousins who are married got a moun dikhai thing.. my husband got me a necklace. It may be a regional thing.
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Yes, Hydros do muhn dhikai as well (at least I my family they do). It usually is jewelry but doesn’t have to be. My husband got me a watch (he’s not Hydro).
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I’ve only seen mou dikhai as a collective sum from the inlaws. Not personally from the husband. But I guess I never really asked.
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Yes. Yes it is.