Is marriage by FATE?

[neha]

Re: Is marriage by FATE?

@NomiCA

what do you want to be convinced about?

the truth!!

@n7111

Neha I read a couple of your threads and I could relate to almost everything you wrote. My situation was very similar to yours, I kept compromising at every step throughout the four years of my engagement. I did everything possible and took all the crap my fiance and his family gave me. I was in a loveless engagement for a couple of years (it was actually a LOVE MARRIAGE), my fiance kept giving me hell and I was patient thinking that everything will be fine once we are married. But I was wrong, my wedding got called off just a few days before it was due to happen, to be exact - 11 days. My in laws made a lame excuse and very politely backed off.
My mistake was that I wasn’t ready to accept that he’s not perfect anymore neither is his family, I knew there was a possibility of it ending this way but never thought it would. . It’s been a while now and I can’t stop thanking Allah from saving me from this marriage. My fiance says it’s not over yet and we’ll get married, but i will NEVER go back. I have now realized how much painful my relationship had become. I was probably not destined to be with him and this was Allah’s way of helping me out…
I made the mistake of not performing istakhara but you should ask someone to do it for you because you have time neha. And pray to Allah for the best…I was wrong to keep convincing myself that i’m not being fooled by him
I’m sure you have dozens of questions about my story but I thought I should share my experience with you…remember Allah always guides us to whats best for us, we are the ones who lead ourselves astray sometimes…I don’t mean to scare you sweety but this is the time to work things out!! In short, yes I believe Allah writes our destiny, and marriage is definitely by fate

thanx alot for posting all this…i am really happy for u that u were saved …

@redvelvet

You don’t seem too happy, Neha. And I understand that there are two sides to a story and you have to compromise and let some things slide in a relationship. But if you are mostly miserable with this guy, if he frequently and consistently disrespects you and your family, if he’s an overall negative person and being with him is draining you, then talk to your parents about it. While people here can give you advice…I think you’ll feel more at ease when you talk to people who are actually involved with this rishta (your parents). That can help you decide what you want to do.

no itz not that…yeah am upset over somethings but i want answer to this one