Re: is MAID a better choice??
Aly-sam- my family has long term generational servents in Pakistan but not where i'm at.
The other for me here is that many many mothers spend their free time socializing which is fine..and needed but for some it means the maid puts the baby to bed, wakes with them in the am and gives breakfast so mom can go out late and sleep in. Baby stays home to have their nap so mom can do errands/grab a coffee so basically they play/see their mom from 10-12ish and 3 to 6ish.
the other issue briefly mentioned is that children end up a bit spoiled and parents aren't being parents. i realize it's a cultural thing but i don't want my daughter thinkinig at this age that when she doesn't want to do something i tell her to do she can get the maid to get it..i want her to be independent and active.
I think that it's a hard balance to do well. I have a maid 3 hours a day plus evening baby sitting. I would love a few hours more but don't need it all the time ....and would love the flexibility to step out whenever i want rather than coordinate it with my part-timer...but i know it's a slippery slope and i don't want to go there.