ok so i witnessed the following 2 things
So is it typical to do this?
would you do something like in a similar situation?
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These examples show how messed up desi people can be and I hope this is not typical.
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so what the hell .. they got the invite didnt they ..
and those ppl who make this typa fuss ..are just too stupid and lame .. and defintly dont knw how to respect each and everyone of their family / relatives .. so what if a invite went thru a cousin or chacha etc etc ..they shud be happy enuf .. the original ppl may be quiet busy and if another family member or relative helped out or seen it best ..to do so .. then let it be … it aint end of the world …
What on earth?! These self important idiots deserve a swift kick back to reality. With attitudes like that they should be lucky they got invited in the first place because I wouldn't have bothered.
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i disagree, some people are like this. not just desis. if someone cannot be bothered to give an invite, when they have given to others, then why go...either not enough invites were printed, or they didnt intend on inviting those people who didnt get one and changed their mind last min for whatever reasons. why print some and call some, just call everyone or give invites to everyone, its not rockets science, its basic manners to invite people, you dont make differences in the way you do so.....
if the dulha/paretns of dulha didnt invite my dad or mum or me, and we were given card by other people, obv we are not that important to the people inviting, its respect to come yourself and give it, you want the person invited to come themselves right? in that sense i guess its ok NOT to attend and instead give YOUR cousin the invite so he can go, seeing as it was HIS cousin who invited you...
we take time out of our day ( approx the whole day for wedding) to go to wedding and give a gift etc, and these people cannot be bothered to come to someones house for 5 mins to give a card......!!!
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My own example, my dad was walking down the road going to the stores, and he happened to bump into an old freind whose son's wedding was next day and he casually invited my dad to it...excuse me....this is not the way to invite someone.....an invitation like this means nothing. its all talk. you should have the courtesty to do it properly. after all, manners come into play here too, not just the words you say.
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No nadz the invitation card was from the dulha but was sent thru the cousin since the dulha and his parents had arrived 5 days before marriage and coudl nto hand over 1000 cards to each and every person themselves.
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hmmmmm, ok im guessing they went abroad for wedding, ok maybe diff story then, all depends, but how do you know that THIS is the reason they didnt attend, sometimes, like you say if 1000 invites have been given or even 500, there may be a chance some may not come for whatever reasons....
i know people get very personal over wedding invites, thats why these gorey only invite 100 or less and give personal invites, alot of my mates did this, we as desis have a problem of inviting over a million people, and we are always the first to spot the one or two who didnt make it..
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because they came 2 days after the marriage to tell why they didnt come.
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lol,
why come 2 days after, just dont come at all. this is all drammmmmayyyyy....
for their defence i say, maybe these people considered themsevles close to the people who got married, and were insulted they wernt personally invited, i know i have friends who may consider me a close friend, one of them got offended 2 yrs ago when i gave out christmas cards and i had my lil brother go post it in her house, she was peed off too, i may have seen nothing wrong with it, but its all about feelings. at the end of the day, these people will take a whole day out, give gifts, and attend their wedding for them maybe its a big enough deal to personally invite......now if the reason was well we have 1000 and couldbt possibly give each one personally some people will mind, because they will consider themselve not too important then.........
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My reason for wanting to get an invitation directly is simply because as desies people tend to invite others to events that arent even theirs. I would never want to invite myself anywhere especially when its so expensive to have a wedding these days. Im saying this because recently a few people have invited themselves to my sister's events and its aggravating!
But in your case, LP...it seems strange they didnt come.
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These r all examples of being a JAHIL!
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big time JAHIL
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i have an example of this jahil behaviour.
my daughter was born last month and my husband made the initial phone calls to our parents in pak and siblings here and in pak
my sister was called (she is married) a day later she is calling our mum and telling her that our dad needs to call and tell her FIL that we’ve just had a baby girl.
such an issue was made of this, my sister said that she would not be able to stay for very long when she would come because dad had not spoken to her FIL.
In my opinion if the member of our family who it is relevant to tell has been told why do they need this kind of special treatment?
my sister didnt even attend the Haqiqa because of these stupid issues her husband and in laws made even though for this i called her MIL myself and invited my sister and her husband and her MIL and FIL.
oh and my new brother in law didnt even have the courtesy to pick up the phone even and say congrats, we were sent a text message by my sister with his congratulations 
haha, i also know of something similar, my aunt had a baby, and she told all fmaily members and rishtedaarss we happen to know, now these particular people didnt even come to see the baby because they were waiting for the matai!!( Sweet dish people give out when baby born) , and said jab matai tum log dene ao gay pir hum aaingain....
my aunty thankfully ignored them and didnt send any, in fact she didnt send any to anyone, but who cares. they came eventually after 8 weeks, and made a fuss.....