is it wrong to be attracted to other women/men when you are already married man/woman?
often in talks with other men ( especially in married men) i have often observed that they are attracted to other women. they dont hate their wives. their wives might be very cool. but maybe it is a man’s general behaviour that he is never satisfied. or maybe it is just the need for change that humans desire. i have seen that kind of thing in women too. but men are more inclined towards such behavior then women. or maybe that is my perception.
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is it wrong to be attracted to other women/men when you are already married man/woman? often in talks with other men ( especially in married men) i have often observed that they are attracted to other women. they dont hate their wives. their wives might be very cool. but maybe it is a man's general behaviour that he is never satisfied. or maybe it is just the need for change that humans desire. i have seen that kind of thing in women too. but men are more inclined towards such behavior then women. or maybe that is my perception.
Well as Muslims we believe that we are in a constant struggle with the so called "nafs", so for example as a married man it's normal for you to feel attracted to and have the desire to engage in sexual relations with attractive females that you may see. This is normal, you can't run from it, happens to me all the time. You must do what you can to avoid it, ie don't gawk at other women, seek refuge in GOD etc..
However, as Muslims we believe it would be morally disgusting to act upon such behavior, because we believe that we will be held accountable for our actions and that GOD is watching what we do, we must constantly struggle to purify ourselves.
Thus to sum it up the attraction is normal, to act upon it is not. Islam tells us that we are not mere animals who are slaves to our desires, we must have control and demonstrate Taqwa ie GOD consciousness.
Trust me, when you establish regular Salah, you will develop Taqwa, then you will shun all forms of shameful and immoral behavior.
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It's impossible not to notice an attractive man or a woman but at the same time don't make a fool out of yourself by staring at someone like a retard perv. Women are usually better at hiding the hots for a guy they find handsome, a man on the other hand, often doesn't even realize that he's been checking out a woman for the past 15 minutes...now if he's married and his wife has worked it out he's gonna be in big trouble. Most women don't realize that how hard most men find stopping themselves from looking at gorgeous women, hence so many complaint threads in Life1 on this topic.
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Apnay bachay aur dosray key wife hamaisha achi lagti hay :cobra:
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Wow EDAL..
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I whole heartedly agree with EDAL`s response, However as a freind of mine says YOU ARE ALLOWED TO CHECK THE MENU JUST AS LONG AS YOU DONT EAT AT ANOTHER RESTAURANT or somin like dat.
hahahaha yea its a common bimari now a days :) i hate those husband who do this. apnay saray kaam karvanay k lia bichari bivi or taarnay k lia oron ki bivi wah i think yeh unki nature mai hota hai and nature cant be changed :)
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Of course it's norma. But when I say normal, I mean you feel it but don't act on it or show it. Guys who attempt to flirt (simply joking around may not be flirting) while married are going beyond just being attracted.
Minus the religious lecturing, I agree with EDAL.
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I would think as long as you can comfortably tell your wife hey that girl is pretty and vice versa, its not creepy. If you're keeping it inside you and getting weird thoughts, giving perverted glances, and borderline stalking there's an issue.
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Well i from your topic of discussion you are asking..if it is ok to attract the member of opposite sex while you married. The most honest question should be NO. Because if you are acting this way..ya're disrespecting your wife or your husband. It is ok to admire but not to extent where this attraction becomes cause of something else.
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LOL dude you are such a controversial-wanna-be.
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ya also if your a man and cant control your desires you can always marry a 2nd wife. then it is all fine and dandy halal go ahead given legal.
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so long as you dont get physical, you can go to the moon and come back no problem
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ya also if your a man and cant control your desires you can always marry a 2nd wife. then it is all fine and dandy halal go ahead given legal.
Yeah, if you can actually pay for and manage two households at the same time..
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is it wrong to be attracted to other women/men when you are already married man/woman? often in talks with other men ( especially in married men) i have often observed that they are attracted to other women. they dont hate their wives. their wives might be very cool. but maybe it is a man's general behaviour that he is never satisfied. or maybe it is just the need for change that humans desire. i have seen that kind of thing in women too. but men are more inclined towards such behavior then women. or maybe that is my perception.
It is wrong yet is existent equally within both the genders. There are certain limits to everything to which it all well could be tolerated, regardless if its a wife or a husband doing it.
It is however a wrong/unacceptable act to indulge in.
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is it wrong to be attracted to other women/men when you are already married man/woman? often in talks with other men ( especially in married men) i have often observed that they are attracted to other women. they dont hate their wives. their wives might be very cool. but maybe it is a man's general behaviour that he is never satisfied.
What are men? Bottomless pits of insatiable lust?
No, of course it's not wrong to think of someone else when you're with your spouse. That's probably the secret to a happy marriage. Just don't call out the wrong name.
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What are men? Bottomless pits of insatiable lust?
No, of course it's not wrong to think of someone else when you're with your spouse. That's probably the secret to a happy marriage. Just don't call out the wrong name.
Is it just me who expects a "while" to be smushed in their somewhere. Khair. :D
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What are men? Bottomless pits of insatiable lust?
No, of course it's not wrong to think of someone else when you're with your spouse. That's probably the secret to a happy marriage. Just don't call out the wrong name.
:p
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It's not wrong. I just have a hard time understanding how that happens. I can't even imagine thinking about anyone else if I am really really like this one person.
But people are different.
I guess, as long as you don't make your spouse feel crappy by telling her you have hots for her friend or another woman, you should be ok.
I would find it extremely hurtful if my husband liked another woman...not out of jealousy but it would just be mentally torturing to try and please him.