Is it wrong to smile at desi men, obviously not random ones but the ones you come in contact with? Is it wrong to talk with them openly and chit chat?
I’ve seen that usually desi women avoid it and keep a distant. But I seem to do the opposite because I always thought there’s no harm in talking because I know it’s not leading to anything so I treat them like non-desis.But recently after a few incidents I’m starting to think about it. Like if I’m at a restaurant then I smile at the waiter who’s serving me etc.
So is it? Or if your intentions are right then it doesn’t matter.
I keep my distance. I dont know why, cuz I have never had any bad experience with a desi guy, but still talking freely and smiling with them just makes me uncomfortable. Funny enough, I dont have the same problem talking with gore ladke or even arabic guys.
I remember we once talked about it with some desi girls and boys and some girls pointed out that they didnt want the guys to get any "wrong" idea or hint so they limit themselves. Whereas the guys complained saying desi girls misunderstand anything a desi guy does, like if he holds the door, they wont smile back and say thanks, but rather look oddly at him. I hope I made sense.
Well, I never had any issues talking to desi men. I have come across many in my work place and a few in my department who i have to communicate with directly. I do understand ur point though. But i dont think it is wrong just to be polite to say hello/salam. and as for work wise - u have no choice but to talk to them. In my work place there is a desi man who is very traditional and always goes on about him not liking his wife working. Which obviously implies to me that he doesnt like WOMEN to work. But i dont care. im doing my job and his doing his.
Most guys would agree that single desi girls have big time hang ups when it comes to interacting with desi guys, particularly those that they don't know. Now this attitude may or may not be justified by the harkatain of our mard hazrat. But the whole act comes across as a superiority complex at best and a total inability to communicate at worst.
It also explains why there is a need for a zaroorat-e-rishta thread on gupshup. :D
LOL @ RV, in that case I think I'll just stop smiling rather than ruining my beautiful bateesi. :D
But what if the guy involved is twice as old as you, old enough to be your dad? That's the way I always looked at it, he's just an uncle ji. Can it still send out 'wrong' ideas and look cheap?
Well, I never had any issues talking to desi men. I have come across many in my work place and a few in my department who i have to communicate with directly. I do understand ur point though. But i dont think it is wrong just to be polite to say hello/salam. and as for work wise - u have no choice but to talk to them. In my work place there is a desi man who is very traditional and always goes on about him not liking his wife working. Which obviously implies to me that he doesnt like WOMEN to work. But i dont care. im doing my job and his doing his.
I regularly telll my female colleagues that they should stay at home and serve their husbands but they understand that i am kidding.
Being a desi man I firmly believe that any random woman who smiles at me wants to have sex with me. Please don't ruin it for me by suggesting otherwise. You people just don't know.
Being a desi man I firmly believe that any random woman who smiles at me wants to have sex with me. Please don't ruin it for me by suggesting otherwise. You people just don't know.
