…for me to be resentful of a relative copying several aspects of my wedding? We are getting married within a few months of each other and I got married first. I keep telling myself I shouldn’t care, but its to the point that she took things she already set (like her mehndi outfit) and then changed them after seeing mine (she thought hers were too light after seeing mine.)
Things that you would normally book months before a wedding like a makeup artist, photographer and your shaadi and valima joras, she only booked after my wedding and just two months before her wedding.
On a related note, she wants to book the same photographer as I did cause she said before she wanted Munna Mushtaq and that he’s charging 120,000 for 10 portraits. Please help me feel like I’m not losing my mind, there is no way he could be that expensive!
If I was in her situation, having the second wedding and knowing that family members would compare, I would purposely not choose the same vendor for anything because there are plenty of good MUAs, photographers, etc to go around but she just planned her wedding by looking at mine rather than seeing what her own tastes are.
I know no one, including myself, can be completely original in their wedding planning, but man this is really annoying. Please help me feel better, I REALLY don’t want to care about this and I feel guilty for even writing about such a stupid issue but its bugging me big time!
she is inspired by you..just enjoy being an inspiration :) I wont mind anyone doing that because everyone around in the family will be knowing that I already did that first and she is copying
You should be happy that she liked your wedding a lot .. enough for her to choose and take ideas from your wedding. If someone does that to me, i'll be more than happy to guide them. I'll think they really did love everything about my wedding. What's there to feel bad about ? I'd be proud that everything I did was so good. Don't we share pics/info here on GS. When we like a bride or a wedding we ask the girl who did her makeup/clothes etc. I would be happy to answer all the questions.
maybe its just me but i dont get what the issue is here... has she actually picked virtually identical mehndi/barat/walima outfits? if she has then yeah i suppose i can understand ur frustration but if its only the same colour or same style then i think u need to let it go and stop thinking about it over and over again, it really isnt a big deal. and what is wrong with her booking the same mua/photographer? if a close member of my family got married and i saw that the mua/photographer did an awesome job then ofcourse i would book them too. just be happy that ur married and u had ur perfect day and now someone else in ur family will experience that joy too
Well countless people have used the same photographer in our family because he is a VERY good photographer. No issue there.
If you got married first- Still there shud be no issue there. Because im sure people will realise that you had it first etc.
You shud feel so happy that she is copying YOUR wedding. Not taking your ideas and using them as hers, She has been inspired by yours and is gonna use them.
Again you had them first.
I wud jus laugh about it, and jus go on like im HER inspiration!!
Relax and dont over think it.
Oh man I hate cousins who copy every single thing. There's nothing you can do apart from doing something better each time :) Oh and remember even if someone copies you, they can't be like you. The reason why they copy us is because they want to be like us :)
fasaadi, she obviously wants to be like you! you are your own family celebrity =)
I can understand you must be frustrated and annoyed. How easy is it to just copy someone else's idea and not do anything on your own. At this point you cant do anything. Just let her be. Since everyone has came to your wedding first they will know you had the original idea(s).
Fasaadi, you’re a trendsetter, woman!
It’s very rare to find a bride who can inspire you enough to copy her.. normally, people are too busy criticizing and trying to find faults with the bride, looks like you must have been at the top of everything for her to be totally wow-ed!
^ i agree completely.. and i can actually relate..bcoz i kid u not.. in my family.. wenever i buy somthing.. my cousins go n buy da SAME DAM THINGG or trying copy itt or get something made dat is VERY similar but costs less for dem..and dey tell ppl dey got it 1st..now DAT is a piss of....
but wen we r in gatherings and dey r wearin da clothes i piked out first.. i jokingly tell da guests b4 dey do.. like " o hehehe.. i cant beleive u bought da same outfit after i did.. i must have really inspired u.. i know iam stylish and u proved it.jazakallahkhair lol " andd i swear u shud have seen my cousins and dere moms face.. dey cudnt even say anythign.. coz i was rite... LOLL
soo U GO GURL.. u inspired her and ur da rolemodel :D xox
oh i wouldnt be upset about it...i think its a huge compliment :D
i love it when ppl copy me....i feel the same way like someone else said...hey m a trendsetter....look at it that way you should be proud of yourself :D
