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Of course it's harsh. It's also the truth. Sugar coating it is not going to change anything.
True.
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I agree with the others. The guy is very clear. all the hold back is from your side. Talk to your parents. If they wont let you go to pak then let the guy go and move on. and why are your cousins interfering in the first place? It's none of their business.
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The guy is right, if you're not willing to move to Pak or look beyond caste issues then finish this and move on!
Best post so far! Why complain - you know what he wants, accept it or move on.
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I don't think the guy is leading you on...you're leading him on and he's protecting himself by not getting attached to someone who probably won't work out for him.
I also think its admirable of him to tell you everything upfront. Meaning, his issues with his ex-wife and how he does not want the same scenario repeating.
You should respect that and figure out if YOU want to end it and move on.
One last thing...I find it strange that your whole khandaan is involved in this rishta. Are your parents healthy and capable? If so, this should not be a neighborhood discussion.
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I have to say that at least he is being honest. In today's manipulative culture, most guys will do opposite as this is an ideal situation for them to say at the end that "its not me but its because of you we are ending this relationship."
In Islam there is not caste and ethnicity. I suggest pray two raka for Isthikhara and leave rest on Allah and best will happen for you.
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If you are serious about this guy, and you are ready to move to Pakistan permanently, talk to your parents about it. If you fail to convince them, just let the guy go.
Re: Is it worth it now?
I don't think the guy is leading you on...you're leading him on and he's protecting himself by not getting attached to someone who probably won't work out for him.
I also think its admirable of him to tell you everything upfront. Meaning, his issues with his ex-wife and how he does not want the same scenario repeating.
You should respect that and figure out if YOU want to end it and move on.
One last thing...I find it strange that your whole khandaan is involved in this rishta. Are your parents healthy and capable? If so, this should not be a neighborhood discussion.
You lot ain't one of those "log kya sochai gain" families?