to accept gifts from someone who is trying to pursue you, yet you are not in the least interested in them? The person in question has made it clear that she regards the pursuer as a friend only. She does often say no to gifts etc, but sometimes, since they are so nice, accepts them.
Is it wrong?
Re: Is it unethical..
well its not ethical if he/she/it accepts the gifts and also makes it clear that he/she/it will not be persuaded so easily and he/she/it will most probably marry his/her's friend or enemy.
on a lighter note...if this person knows that gift are clearly to cloud his/her judgment towards the gift-giver then he/she should not accept them.
Re: Is it unethical..
I can understand the feeling of guilt since the feelings aren't mutual. BUT, if you have already informed the pursuer that you don't have a romantic interest....AND if they are AWARE of it.........then just accept the gifts. You already warned the person. Some people get hurt if you don't accept the gifts that they took the time out to select and buy for you. Just think of it as a gift from a friend who appreciates you and accept it. And if it bothers you that much then tell the person, *"You know, I think of you only as a friend and I'm not looking for it to develop into anything beyond that. I want to be honest with you because I really value this friendship that we have. And while I appreciate the gifts you have given me, I feel guilty about accepting them because I don't want you to get the impression that I'm leading you on or using you because that is not the case." *
Re: Is it unethical..
^^ Agree.
Why take give it no interest.
Gift taking means agree or like you.
No as a friend too.
Man and woman can't be friend.
And maybe add on, "And if you are giving me these gifts out of friendship, then I accept them. However, if you're giving me these gifts as a romantic gesture in the hope that our relationship will change, then I'm afraid I can't accept it because I don't want to disillusion you."
I know it might sound contradictory, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that if the pursuer KNOWS that you don't feel the same and that the relationship is NOT going to change and hopefully is not trying to.......then accept the gifts out of friendship/appreciation after they have been FULLY aware. If the person is that adamant and you've warned them, what can you do?
^^ Agree.
Why take give it no interest.
Gift taking means agree or like you.
No as a friend too.
Man and woman can't be friend.
they can be enemies...
or worse...husband n wife.
jal tu jalal tu, aye wife ko taal tu
Re: Is it unethical..
^ lol you are funny.
to accept gifts from someone who is trying to pursue you, yet you are not in the least interested in them? The person in question has made it clear that she regards the pursuer as a friend only. She does often say no to gifts etc, but sometimes, since they are so nice, accepts them.
Is it wrong?
Yes, very very unethical.
Re: Is it unethical..
Well take the gift and pass it on to me.. :)
Re: Is it unethical..
I would not take it Catty. It seems a bit wrong because obviously the guy is trying to win your heart and he will do anything...including buying you gifts to do it. If a guy pursued me when I didnt like him and bought me things in the process, I wouldnt take them. It will lead him on and also open the door for more gifts and he will think thats what he has to do to win me.
Tell your friend not to even think twice about it. Next time he gets her anything...she has to speak up and say no so she doesnt hurt him in the long run.
Re: Is it unethical..
u r trying to give them hope by taking there gifts.....even if u did mention it to them that u r jst taking it as a frd but its giving them hope that today u r thier frd tomoro they might b able to change ur thinking....
if u do want to later on change ur thinking then i would say take it...but if u already decided then i would say return the gift and jst apologize and say that you cant accept these gifts cuz of ur principles...
Re: Is it unethical..
catty....nothing wrong with accepting gifts from that person if you made your feelings for them known.
unless you are totally repulsed by them and want nothing to do with em.... I say...enjoy the gifts :D
Personally I would refuse...but if he insists then you cant do anything about it. Just make sure you remind him that you are not interested in the same way that he may be.
Re: Is it unethical..
it happend to me once. i only went out with my so called friend on my bday just to have a nice time adn he gifted me this realy nice jlo perfume. later i found out he was interested in me. well instead of feeling guilty i gave that perfume to my sister which was unopened and then my sister gave to some1 else lolzz
so dont feel guilty and it was 3 years ago so i dont rem the name of perfume if sum1's gonna ask me.
Re: Is it unethical..
Take the gifts, I see no problem in that but give the poor soul something back in return...
Re: Is it unethical..
oooh touchy subject... I have taken the gift only because I tried to return it and it kinda hurt his feelings.
Re: Is it unethical..
And then there are women on this forum who complain about not getting gifts on bdays 
what is wrong with men