Is it true

[Paheli00]

Re: Is it true

@Scarface

that men define family values and women only follow them?

For example, if men are conservative then their womenfolk will also be conservative. If men are liberal, then women are also liberal and not vice versa.

Same is true for religious values.

And at-least in Pak, women’s political thought is only a reflection of what their men think. I have never seen a wife supporting a political party other than what her husband supports.

Agree?

Disagree.

Yes, there are women who are very submissive and follow their husband’s values/beliefs without question.

However, in my personal experience, most women pick and choose their “battles”. These women will “give up” certain things if the man cares about it more than they do…but in return, they make it clear to the man as to what’s important to them. As for politics, I don’t know too many women (especially desi) who’re very passionate about their political parties. There is a major difference between supporting a team (whether its political, sports, special interest group…whatever) because you’re adopting your husband’s values, and supporting the team publically b/c you really don’t care one way or another.

Also, many times women don’t disagree with their husband’s in public b/c they don’t want to come across as being not supportive. When I’m out with my SO, there are many time he makes comments in his social group that I disagree with. Yet while in public, I always support him. But when we’re alone, I let him know how I truly feel. Just b/c a woman supports a political party that her husband supports, that doesn’t necessarily mean she agrees with its beliefs.

At the end of the day, it’s about compromise and choosing your battles. Each person in a relationship needs to decide what’s worth the fight…and what’s worth letting go for the sake of the relationship.