yourself? In the end, is it a lesson of life that you eventually learn ? Or is it just sumthing .. like a conclusion u come to after ur own experiences? Will there always be tht frend or family member whos there for u when u need them the most? Maybe its the opinion of divorced ppl? Maybe lifes just been a complete *****? I hate feeling tht sense of completedesolation and emptiness. maybe i just need to get married
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maybe i just need to get married
I think your conclusion is wrong.
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^:hehe:
if you are religiously oriented give that a go. i find that helps.
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hey man, the despondency in oneself is not a way to be.
you should look at this as this that you're able to take care of yourself and other people who you care about.
and then not let loose of the sight that people who are stead fast at their convictions, are the real people. i have great respect for women and men, who serve as good positive role models. and part of their respect comes from them being respectable. so stay self sufficient.
and look at the from a clear-conscious point of view, man.
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yourself? In the end, is it a lesson of life that you eventually learn ? Or is it just sumthing .. like a conclusion u come to after ur own experiences? Will there always be tht frend or family member whos there for u when u need them the most? Maybe its the opinion of divorced ppl? Maybe lifes just been a complete *****? I hate feeling tht sense of completedesolation and emptiness. maybe i just need to get married
**Remember being there in time of need is usually a two way street. if you have helped people in need, then you can expect some one will be there for you too, generosity is usually returned and stinginess is also remembered by those around you. **
just a thought!
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Do your best help others but never EXPECT the same in return because most of the times you will be disappointed. This is what i have learnt in life and it works well for me because it only hurts when you expect something from others so always think that you HAVE to do everything on your own, any kind of help you get can be considered a BONUS.
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Do your best help others but never EXPECT the same in return because most of the times you will be disappointed. This is what i have learnt in life and it works well for me because it only hurts when you expect something from others so always think that you HAVE to do everything on your own, any kind of help you get can be considered a BONUS.
totally agree with U!
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Ultimately the only person you can ever truly depend upon is yourself....and heck...sometimes you will even let yourself down. So it's cool. Don't stress about it.
There are certain people in your life that will be there for you. Come hell or high water. These don't need to be your family or spouse. You will learn to identify them through various experiences.
And yes, when you do something for someone, don't expect THAT person to return the favour. Do it for Allah and He will make sure that someone is there for you when you need them.
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yes.. i agree with everyone here. and also somewhat with u, legally desi.
dont worry, there's many of us with you in that boat, i for one! ujust have to accept the fact that no ppl can be EXACTLY like you are...
no matter how much u give in ur own way, u can never expect the return u want! or perhaps the return is so miniscule, that it seems like ud been wasting ur time all ur life.
and then u go, place ur trust in that person again.. remember, just b/c ur love for that someone (ur husband/ parents/ whoever) is unconditional, their's is too!
if u feel ure vulnerable, yess! then ure all uve got for urself! it's somewhat selfish, if u dont gain.. u definitely don't lose :)
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I often go tht extra mile to spare others the trouble.. but is it worth it? making urself vulnerable, i mean. sometimes tht moment is great, where u really feel like ur not just taking up extra room in this world// u feel better abt urself.. even closer to Allah.. nd along comes tht natural expectancy for getting if not the same, atleast something close to wat u gave. back.. andd its not like I dnt tell myself over and over again not expect much because this isnt the first time sumones turned their back on me, but I just can't help it.. i hate tht slapped-in-the-face feeling tht u get as an answer soo much.. i wish i could just train myself to not care
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**Remember being there in time of need is usually a two way street. if you have helped people in need, then you can expect some one will be there for you too, generosity is usually returned and stinginess is also remembered by those around you. **
just a thought!
Ap ki thoughts ny Muttasar:D (Muttasir in Warraich style;)) kia
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I often go tht extra mile to spare others the trouble.. but is it worth it? making urself vulnerable, i mean. sometimes tht moment is great, where u really feel like ur not just taking up extra room in this world// u feel better abt urself.. even closer to Allah.. nd along comes tht natural expectancy for getting if not the same, atleast something close to wat u gave. back.. andd its not like I dnt tell myself over and over again not expect much because this isnt the first time sumones turned their back on me, but I just can't help it.. i hate tht slapped-in-the-face feeling tht u get as an answer soo much.. i wish i could just train myself to not care
i took a course "5 habits of highly effective people". Its a course designed to imporve your philosphy of life. One of the things they try to make you realize is to look for WIN-WIN situation. Meaning, it works out FOR YOU and FOR OTHER party. if you are making yourself vanurable, then it is obviously not working out for you, is it?
If you have to take a chance with someone (e.g, they need to borrow 5000 dollars), then give them the amount you can afford to live without (in worse case secenerio) ... even if it may be $100.
Helping other doesn't mean you have to take a hit on their behalf.
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yourself? In the end, is it a lesson of life that you eventually learn ? Or is it just sumthing .. like a conclusion u come to after ur own experiences? Will there always be tht frend or family member whos there for u when u need them the most? Maybe its the opinion of divorced ppl? Maybe lifes just been a complete *****? I hate feeling tht sense of completedesolation and emptiness. maybe i just need to get married
- You always have Allahjee, period.
- Family is the party always keeping your happiness at mind.
- You are part of family, so your worries/joy affect the family.
- Friends:dont expect much, keep realistic focus.
- Be your own care taker. To marry isnt the answer to life itself. Dont built your life up, thinking marriage will complite you. Only yo can make yourself happy and a whole person. Have interests, have goals and ambitions. Fill your life with a solid net-work.
Though I recently got divorced, I feel Im in my best phase ever. So much Ive been doing, planning, investing too. Im myself now and I dont wish ever to seattle for less. A partner would be good, but only such who is mature and through with wild life.....
If I ever chose someone, or my family asks me to mingle....I have to be able to see him as the father of my future kids. The wow-effect! That he can be THE mountain I can lean at. I cant let the past, from keeping me having a great future. Single or as couple, it just has to be with dignity.
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wow ..nice pathani baji ...
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In the end ...or in the begining..you can depend on yourself only...it, s the best thing one can do for oneself..people come and go...some times you can end up with not so dependable spouse..too.
I never depend on anyone..!