For two sisters, 24 years old and 22 years old to have never ever received a single formal rishta?
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For two sisters, 24 years old and 22 years old to have never ever received a single formal rishta?
Yes, their lives are so deprived of the joys of the chai parade, the scrutiny, the waiting, and the drama, LOL.
I think there are many rishtas that are turned down (by either the guy's side, the girl's side, or both) over just the phone...or through a mathcmaker...and it never even reaches the stage where both parties meet each other face-to-face. Relax....focus on developing yourself...and inshaAllah when it's meant to be, it'll happen.
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Do you know these sisters or are you one of these sisters?
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Not at all my dear :)! inshAllah things will come when it's the right time! have faith in Allah swt. He decides these things so leave it on Him. Don't waste your youth in thinking about this stuff, instead spend it in doing something worthwhile while you can!!
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Yes it is...is there somethign wrong with the sisters? Are the y unattractive? Something wrong with their personalities?
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^i really hope you are joking.
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^Would you accept the rishta of someone unattractive and abnormal. So, why become so sentimental? Sara's a sage.
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No! In fact it is terrible when people lose hope and faith. When they don't focus on things that are in their control and become worried about things that are not in their control. When they put unnecessary pressure on themselves instead of utilizing that precious time of their youth for a better cause. When the socially inculcated negative thinking about themselves overcomes their self confidence and positive attitude. When they try to dress up and present themselves in order to come up to the expectations of others instead of doing what they themselves are comfortable with. When they follow the unreasonable customs/cultures instead of doing what they feel is right in terms of their own faith. When pleasing irrelevant people become their priority and not their Allah (swt), Who controls everything. When they feel guilty about things that are not their fault. When they start to become thankless by blaming their fate for their appearance, height, color....etc., without even realizing that all that is not in their control happens for their best interest, because our mental capabilities are too limited to understand/comprehend the wisdom behind the decisions of the Almighty Allah (swt).
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No. Nothing wrong with it, and don't let our pea-brained society tell you otherwise.
This is the same group of people, mind you, who comprise a country with the crappiest living conditions, near no-social rights for their own citizens, in the middle of a huge silent class war that is breaking apart the society, poverty rampant upon the streets and the same old amm'a and abba's expecting aishwarya herself to come knocking for their son's rishta (mA, their son is morbidly obese with adult acne, and a butt the size of Alaska, but pero, he deserves a princess) , are the same amma and abba's who drive their cars past the unfortunate and poor and just WATCH little kids with swollen bellies from protein and nutritional deficiencies pee'ing on the streets butt naked in front of a mazaar (I kid you not, this is the scene I've seen myself).
So, you want their good opinion for these, probably, wonderful, smart, sexy young women and why no one has the cahoonas to propose to them or get to know them, cuz GOD FORBID, they might be awesome people?
Yeah, well. Good luck with that.
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KB- *No although it would be nice to be 22 again!
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PCG- This is true; you know especially today it's getting harder and harder for people to find their other halves on their own. I was just wondering if this is common amongst our people these days. Yes chai parades are seeing their demise, but it seems that people no longer will contact families they're interested in unless they actually know each other well enough. The problem with these two girls is not their personalities or their looks, they could actually rival any of the girls here and I say that without having seen pictures of the women who posted, but that's how sure I am. Their parents are not very social, the girls themselves don't exactly hang out much with the opposite gender, and the few guys that have approached them haven't been so sincere with their intentions.
In the end however, everything happens in due time and when God wills it to be.
ETA: Don't know how to multiquote! Anyone wanna teach me? :)
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Bingo.
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Its a normal thing.
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If I was one of them two sisters, I'd shoot myself in the head rather than living such cursed wretched life.
That ^ was a joke, alright? Although weyah is the ultimate nirvana in our desi society, not getting rishtas at 22-24 years is not something that grave. When they are meant to get married, they will get married. That is how it is, that is how it is going to be. Some get married in their teens, some get married in their 30's, some in their 40's. Getting rishtas and/or getting married earlier does not guarantee a happy fulfilling life. There is more to life than getting married and making babies. Focus on more important stuff, basically stuff that you have control over. Accomplish something in life, be proud of who you are and what you are. Weyah will happen when it is supposed to.