When a couple gets engaged, whether love or arranged marriage, and suddenly “problems’” begin to pop up, like families not cooperating, whatever, is ti a safe assumption to make that if they are causing problems now, married life wont be a piece of cake either?
Okay we all know married life itself is not a piece of cake anyways and there are no guarantees…but sometimes the engagement period can be sooo perfect and wonderful..and it all changes right after the wedding and things quickly turn sour sometimes. Does the opposite hold true? is there anyone who had a “rocky” engagement period that did get married and things became smooth again? I ask b/c often when someone here has a problem with their fiance, quite a few of us are quck to say “if they 're causing problems now then what will happen afterwards”? I’m not saying they’re wrong b/c it is a valid concerN, but i just wonder what makes someoen stick it out esp when they’re not really married yet?
It all depends on what the source of the friction is. But generally if the engagement is marred with both families not getting along. Expect marriage to get worse, unless of course you elope and run off to Bermuda. Then its all good.
IMO long engagements are bad and my family does not believe in them. They do simple nikah and then give the couple a few months to plan the wedding if they wish.
What happens during the engagement period is the couple gets restless. This is simply my opinion so dont count on it being true, lol. After both families agree on a union and everyone has the green light, there should be a brief period and then the couple should get married. They have to start their lives together to take their relationship to the next level. If they dont get married soon, their relationship kind of stays suspended...until you make a move either forward or backward.
IMO long engagements are bad and my family does not believe in them. They do simple nikah and then give the couple a few months to plan the wedding if they wish.
What happens during the engagement period is the couple gets restless. This is simply my opinion so dont count on it being true, lol. After both families agree on a union and everyone has the green light, there should be a brief period and then the couple should get married. They have to start their lives together to take their relationship to the next level. If they dont get married soon, their relationship kind of stays suspended...until you make a move either forward or backward.
Couldn't have put it better myself. Very wise words.
